"Is this it?" That's the question Tom and Michael dive into this week as they reflect on where they are in life versus where they imagined they’d be. Are they living the dream they once pictured, or is there more to accomplish? As they look ahead to the next five years, it’s clear they’re not done yet—and they invite you to do the same. Join the co…

In this week's episode, Michael and Tom dive into the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and how seasonal changes impact mental health. We discuss personal experiences, tips for managing those gloomy days, and share some light-hearted moments to lift your spirits. Whether the colder, darker months get you down or you're curious about how …

In this episode, Tom and Michael take a deep dive into a topic many gay men, especially those over 50, often grapple with: regret. From personal, professional, and sexual regrets to those uniquely colored by LGBTQ+ experiences, they explore the nuances of "gay regret." What types of regret do we carry? And, more importantly, can regret be used to i…

In this episode, Michael and Tom dive into the hot topic of hooking up vs. dating! They break down the differences, share the pros and cons of today's dating scene, and take a hard look at the common complaints within the over 50 Gay Community. Are we the reason we're bitter about dating, or is it really the people we're meeting? Tune in as we get …

After our eye-opening episode last season on financial readiness and planning for the future, we realized this conversation needed to go even deeper. We were thrilled when Kirk Bremer, AIF®, reached out after watching that episode to share his expert insights on the five essential plans everyone needs to have in place for a secure future. Some of t…

In this episode, Michael and Tom tackle the complexities of voting, breaking down everything from the Electoral College to swing states and more. With Election Day just around the corner, they’ll explain how the system works and, most importantly, share practical ways for you to get involved and make your vote count this election season. Whether yo…

In this episode, Tom and Michael revisit listener feedback from their recent discussion on PTSD, uncovering a common theme: as gay men, we’ve all endured multiple layers of trauma—often sharing similar experiences. While we can’t solve this issue in a single episode, continuing the conversation is a crucial step toward healing. Join us as we delve …

In this episode of No 2 Gays About It, Tom and Michael get real about ageism in the gay community—from experiences in the workplace to dealing with age-related bias in healthcare. They discuss how ageism creeps into different aspects of our lives, what we can do to push back, and when embracing our age is the most empowering choice we can make. Joi…

After a summer of fun, Michael is left wondering if Monogamy in Gay Relationships is going the way of the dinosaurs. In this video, we'll explore the pros and cons of the different types of relationships between gay men, what they're all saying about each other, and whether or not Monogamy is in fact dead. Welcome back to an all new season of No 2 …

It feels like all of our conversations have lead up to this; gay men and PTSD. To say that we've experienced trauma during our many years on this planet is an understatement. We'll take a look at all the reasons why we carry around so much baggage from childhood trauma to the AIDS crisis, as well as talk about ways we can lift ourselves, and others…

Boundaries, I have 'em, you have 'em, we all have 'em or at least we should... because we all know that one guy who doesn't have them and doesn't respect yours... so today, we'll talk about the different types of boundaries there are, how they tend to be crossed, and how you can assert your need when they are crossed. Hope this helps! 💙, Tom & Mich…

You'd think by this age we'd have all our retirement and life stuff figured out, but a staggering number of gay men over 50 are behind. Why? What do we need to get in order, and what are the steps we can take to get there. Enjoy! 💙, Tom & Michael 🧼🧖🏻 Support Queer Businesses and look good while doing it! Alder NY makes clean, vegan skincare for all…

Sexuality is a big part of our identification as gay men, but are we obsessed with it? We'll talk about how this obsession spills out into everyday life, why we're so one track minded, and if we should redefine our relationship with it at this age. Enjoy this honest conversation! 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing …

The longer you've walked on this earth, the more likely you've experienced, in some way... ADDICTION. Today, we'll talk about why we as gay men over 50 are so susceptible to addiction, how you can seek help, or seek others. Join us for this important conversation. 💙, Tom & Michael --Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifes…

Let's face it, whether you're the one being judged or the one judging, it's not coming from a good place... so why are we still doing it at this stage in our lives? Today, we'll discuss who is doing the judging, why they feel the need to judge, how to deal with someone in your life who is judgmental, and how you can stop yourself from being the jud…

Whether you're no stranger to it or you're experiencing it for the first time, loss is something we all will come to experience... but is it something that we as gay men over 50 experience differently? What does loss and grief do to our lives, our body? And how can we overcome loss, especially when it keeps on coming? We'll explore all these topics…

After years of being labelled by others, Tom and Michael explore why we gay men over 50 still feel the needs to label ourselves... are labels good, bad, useless? We'll talk about it all, as well as the many different types of sexual labels that exist in the wild, aka Dating Apps. 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing …

***Trigger Warning*** SUICIDE & DEPRESSION Today we have an open and honest discussion about the Loneliness Epidemic; why and how it's affecting our aging gay community. This is an important conversation for us to have because at some some point, we have or will experience loneliness. You are not alone. We share ways you can cope and overcome lonel…

The gay sex act after 50 is one that can be riddled with hardships and obstacles, especially if it's your main way of defining yourself. In this video, we'll unpack the different challenges we face with sex after 50, solutions to those challenges, and how to be intimate when sex is truly off the table. If you've sworn off sex and relationships in y…

Like it or not, friends and friendship are important aspect of life for the aging gay male, but at this point, it might feel too difficult to make friends, let alone keep them. In this episode, Michael and Tom explore the many different kinds of friendships, the difficulties of making and keeping friends, and whether or not it's truly important for…

Over 36 years of marriage has taught Tom some things, so let's do this. Let's get into the nitty gritty of gay marriage over 50. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to the over 50 gay community? When it comes to Tom Burke and Michael Foley, there’s…

Michael's doing it. Tom never has. And even if you're somewhere in between, Hookups are part of our gay culture. In this episode, we explore what they are, how to do them, and if they're enough. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to the over 50 ga…

In our Season 2 Finale, Tom and Michael discuss all the things they learned over the last 12 episodes. After exploring the many different relationships we as gay men over 50 have, there are four different ways we can apply these lessons that will help us have healthier and happier lives. - Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing background…

Well, we thought we had covered it all last week, but when it comes to the holidays, stressors come from many places. Part two of our holiday series offers Tom & Michael the opportunity to discuss all the stressing factors that come with the Holiday Season, from people who don't like the season, to people who like it too much, and more! -- Who else…

At the first sight of Mariah Carey wearing a Santa suit, a number of emotions may arise, but one thing is for sure, the holidays have arrived! Tom and Michael share the many different emotions they've experienced during the holidays throughout the years, as well as ways to cope with the inevitable stressors we all face. If you're having trouble get…

On this week's episode, we continue our series on relationships by exploring CHANGE. One thing is for certain, things change... and how well you learn to accept that determines how enjoyable the ride will be. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to …

In today's episode, we explore the importance of embracing our inner child so we can cultivate joy and individuality. Join your hosts, Tom Burke and Michael Foley, as they share four ways the gay man over 50 can be young at heart all while allowing yourself to be YOU! -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and vi…

Just because we're over 50, does that mean we don't get to be sexual? Tom & Michael discuss the difference between Sexuality and Sex, the importance of confidence, and ways you can embrace your personal style of courtship. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics…

Trigger Warning: Depression & Suicide Mental Health is a topic that we as gay men over 50 are not comfortable with, and it's time to rip off the bandaid and talk about it. Michael and Tom share their personal journey with mental health as well as different methods you, too, can be supported on your path. This episode deals with mental health, anxie…

We might like to sleep with each other, but we sure don't like each other. With every type of discrimination loudly represented in the Gay Community, it's time to talk about the relationship between ourselves. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to…

Tom hasn't been on a date since 1987. Michael is likely on one right now. Join us as we learn about what the current dating scene is like out there for the gay man over 50. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to the over 50 gay community? When it c…

Just because we're members of the LGBTQ+ Community, it doesn't mean we have a comprehensive understanding of the people each letter represents. After going through some interesting stats, Michael and Tom take the time to better understand the Bisexual, Trans, Queer, and Non-Binary folk in our community. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with dif…

The LGBTQ+ Community have more pets compared to the straight community, and there are many reasons why. In this episode, we talk about the importance of pets in the gay man over 50's life and why having an animal is incredibly significant. Also, we share some Pet Parent behaviors that do not make us wag our tail... -- Who else but two gay guys over…

This complicated topic is many years in the making, and the relationship between the two communities of Gays and Lesbians has gone through many changes. Today, we examine what we have gone through together and why there seems to be an "Us vs. Them" mentality rather than a "We are all one" outlook. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing…

Season 2 of No 2 Gays About It starts off savagely, with a side-eye thrown at the Millennial and Gen Z gays, who for some reason have decided to pick a fight with us older gays! Well, what they didn't bet on is, is that we're fighting back! What happened to respecting your elders, or respecting what we went through to get to today? We talk about al…

It's June. It's Pride Month. And it's time to celebrate! But do you know why? We break down the history and the meaning of this month and why it's such an important event for our community. - Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATREON Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA news a…

Judy, Dolly, Cher, and oh so many more come to mind when we say the word "Icon." No matter who you identify with more, there is no denying that these larger than life folks are integral to our community and the experience of the gay man. Why do we revere the Icon? What does it say about us and our community? Is the gay man anything without his icon…

Is it important to leave a legacy and what about the gay man's experience makes our legacy unique? - Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATREON Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA news and issues… all through a very different and often forgotten voice…that of the over 50 gay m…

Let's face it, if you're even the least bit aware of the world today, things seem pretty grim. So for right now, let's remember that the term "gay" also means "happy"; and that there are a few things you can do to help that remain true! - Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATREON Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley di…

You'd think being men of a certain age, we'd have this whole communication thing down, but as it turns out, no one really does! This week, Tom & Michael discuss the different ways to "discuss," and how there is no right or wrong way, only a mutual desire for understanding. That an a special Savage Side-Eye for KISS frontman Paul Stanley. - Join our…

Tom & Michael discuss how and if May/December romances in the Gay Community could, or even should, work. They also go through what it takes to open your mind to dating men your own age. Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATREON Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA news and iss…

SEX. Now that we have your attention. Michael lists of several kinks to see if Tom either knows what they are or if he's tried them! After that, we head to the Kinsey Scale to better understand the spectrum that is sexuality. - Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATREON Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Polit…

How many items on the Gay Guy's Bucket List have you accomplished? Are you a "bad gay" if you haven't done any of them? Are you a "super gay" if you've done them all? Tom & Michael go down the list to see what they have left to accomplish before they kick the proverbial bucket. - Join our Patreon for early access to videos, episodes, and more! PATR…

The Gay community has a complicated relationship with Family. But whether you're accepted by your biological family or have chosen your own, it's important to have one. Tom and Michael talk about the challenges we face when it comes to being unconditionally loved. - Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA news…

Body image, an issue inside and outside of gay culture. Michael and Tom explore the many ways our self image affects our wellbeing and ways to combat unreasonable body standards. - Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA news and issues… all through a very different and often forgotten voice…that of the over 5…

A source who will remain unnamed claims that gay relationships can't be successful after the age of 50.... um, okay? Michael and Tom discuss the many different ways we engage in relationships in the gay community, but also dispel this outrageous claim by looking at our own relationships and where this person's bias might be coming from... All this …

Tom and Michael discuss what people mean when they say that they are invisible after the age of 50. This is a phenomenon commonly experienced by many people at this age, not just in the gay community, but we unpack the reasons why and offer some ways to reframe things. - Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop culture, and LQBTQIA…

After attending a memorial for Leslie Jordan, Michael is inspired to explore the topic of God, spirituality, and the role religion plays in the life of the gay man over 50. Tom and Michael discuss their different experiences with the church and the unlikely places one can find faith. - Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discuss Politics, Pop cultu…

This week we celebrate the Gay Grandpa we met on American Idol, update a couple news stories we've talked about on past episodes, and we explore the impact of the the words we use to identify ourselves. Terms are being used, "taken back", and repurposed, but some of us who are over 50 may mixed feelings. - Friends Tom Burke and Michael Foley discus…

Michael is just tickled by the idea of the movie Cocaine Bear and can't wait to watch it. What is much less exciting is news of Nikki Haley announcing her bid for presidency. They round out the episode with the main topic of marriage; who is married, who is getting married, what it took to make Gay Marriage legal, and more. - Friends Tom Burke and …