Navigating Surf Relationships: Moving On from Toxic Groups and Negative Friends

Confessions of a Surf Lady | The First Women's Surfing Podcast™

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The connection you have with your surf community directly shapes your surf experience. While being part of a surf group is important, it's even more crucial that the community aligns with your personal goals, motivations, and personality.

In this episode, I, your host Laura Day, share my personal journey in finding the right surf family. I discuss my experiences with toxic surf clubs and unhelpful friendships, and how I ultimately discovered a positive and supportive community in The Surf Société. These stories underscore my core message: it’s perfectly okay to move on from groups and friendships that don’t enhance your surf experience. It’s healthy to seek out communities and friendships that support and inspire you.

Whether you're struggling to find the right surf group or searching for a supportive community, this episode offers encouragement to make your surf journey as enriching and joyful as possible. Tune in to learn why finding and nurturing the right surf community is essential for you.
Main Themes:

• The Heart of Surfing: Community and Connection: "The number one component that makes surfing really special is the community, the people that you get to surround yourself with. Whether they're friends or part of a club, finding a group of women that you can surf with and go out to brunches or dinners with after sunset is part of what makes a surf journey so soul-filling." — Laura Day
• Toxic Surf Club Impacting Mental Health: "It started to feel, frankly, really toxic and not fun. There were a few instances where I was outright bullied online and in person, and I began to really dislike surfing. I hated how it affected my mentality toward surfing. It made me feel really bad about wanting to get out in the water." — Laura Day
• Navigating Your Surfing Journey: "It's okay to go and find a better fit for yourself. You don't have to feel guilty or ashamed. You don't have to feel like you're leaving people in the dust. It's okay to find a group that works for you and makes you feel good about your surf journey." — Laura Day

Resources:

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• Follow The Surf Société: @surfsociete for surf lady tips from #thesurflab inside the membership

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Confessions of a Surf Lady is supported by The Surf Société, our unique digital women's surfing platform where we come together to Learn More. Surf Better. Live Happy. Learn more at Surfsociete.com