The Intoxicating Lies of Alcohol with Meg Geisewite

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This weeks podcast guest is Meg Geisewite who has written an excellent book shining a light on some of the many Lies and False Promises that alcohol makes.

She’s called her book "Intoxicating Lies" and she shares her own highly relatable story while busting myths about alcohol that have shaped the limiting beliefs of many drinkers.

Her book uncovers surprising insights into the alcohol industry and our society’s obsession with the mommy wine culture.

In this Episode

• After college Meg did some modelling and as she puts it she was "the poster girl for Alcohol" – she was Miss Budweiser and the Guiness Girl to name just two of her modelling gigs
• Fully buying into the false messaging from Big Alcohol that we need alcohol to have fun
• As she got married and had children she found herself sucked into the mommyjuice culture – seeing it as an essential parenting aid.
• The turning point for Meg came when as she puts it “My alcohol use was no longer recreational, it was medicinal”
• This is a red flag of dependence for so many of us
• If you’d like our free PDF called “30 signs you need to take a break from alcohol” then just email me – [e-mail]
• For Meg the shift from pleasure to medicinal came as she went through a particularly stressful time in her life
• She felt “dutiful yet dead”, people pleasing and taking care of everybody’s needs but her own.
• At this time she was seeing wine as a reward when she could finally grab some “me” time
• Of course she now knows that this perceived “reward” was just adding to her stress and anxiety and as the external stressors reduced she found herself with a nightly wine habit
• She plucked up the courage to tell her therapist that she was worried about her drinking – only to be told that she was simply thinking about it too much
• That ill judged advice resulted in Meg drinking for 2 more years
• We agreed that whatever your therapist/doctor/friend says to you about your drinking if it’s on your mind then reach out for some help and advice
• Go to tribesober.com and hit join our tribe to join a sobriety community who can enable you to change your relationship with alcohol
• We agreed that the stigma needs to be lifted from women and their drinking and we need to talk about it more openly
• Of course that’s what Meg is trying to achieve with her book and what I am trying to achieve with this podcast
• Society likes to put people in boxes and pushes the false belief that if we are not homeless alcoholics then we are fine
• In fact we are likely to be somewhere on the Alcohol Use Disorder spectrum which is vast
• Rather than compare ourselves with down and out alcoholics we should be comparing ourselves with the best version of ourselves we could be
• Meg’s moment of truth came when she found herself resenting her kids staying late at school to do sport as it was interfering with her wine drinking time
• She realised that she was no longer in control and this scared her
• That’s when she joined Sober Sis – thinking that the 21 day reset would enable her to drink moderately
• She just wanted some tools to help her to drink ‘normally”
• Of course “normal drinking” is yet another intoxicating lie – once we’ve crossed the line into dependence we need to quit drinking completely and stop hankering after moderation
• Moderate drinkers just moderate, they don’t have to join a reset program!
• We agreed that in fact Sober Sis 21 day reset program appeals to a lot of people who are dependent but believe that they can moderate
• The important thing is to bring these people into the conversation and that’s what we do with our 5 day Bootcamps – just go join our free Facebook Group called Sobriety Bootcamp and you’ll be ready to participate in the next one
• For Meg the veil of lies about alcohol began to lift as she read This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
• She felt great at the end of her 21 day challenge and decided to stay curious and continued on a 90 day challenge
• That’s the way to do it – step by step – we avoid the F word at Tribe Sober – the thought of giving up alcohol Forever is just too daunting at first – so go for 30 days, then 100, then 6 months and then a year. After an alcohol free year it’s highly unlikely you’ll want to start drinking again – unless you are still harbouring a false belief that alcohol can add something to your life
• We talked about the importance of mindset and Meg told us that 6 of the ladies in her sober community were going on a trip to Paris – although they had 6 months of sobriety they still felt that alcohol would enhance the experience – as she says they are stuck in the “deprivation” mindset which means they are still relying on will power to stay sober.
• After 100 sober days Meg began to get glimpses of just how awesome an alcohol free life could be and kept asking herself “what if I kept going?” – it’s so important to stay curious
• She did and now she is three years alcohol free
• We agreed on the importance of being in a sober community as we progress further in our journey – Meg talks about the “drinking amnesia” (also known as Fading Affect Bias) that struck her 15 months into sobriety
• We need our community to remind us that its only FAB
• We need our community so that we realise we are not alone in this
• We need our community so that we can ditch the shame
• We talked about Sober Firsts and how tricky they can be – Meg had to call on her community when she was at a dinner in early sobriety and challenged for being boring
• A community will give you LIVE advice – we get people on our groups saying – "Help! - how can I cope with this situation?" and we are always there to talk people down
• So if you’re looking for a sober community then go to tribesober.com, hit join our tribe and read about the support we offer
• Meg devoted her Year One of sobriety to educating herself about the science and as she moved into Year Two it was more about the "heart work" within her sober community
• She describes heartwork of returning to love yourself, finding self compassion and shedding the shame
• Meg found herself wondering why we aren’t warned against the dangers of alcohol
• In fact alcohol was registered as a number one carcinogen by the WHO back in 1988 but that information is rarely highlighted in the public domain
• Have a listen to my podcast interview with Professor Stockwell called The Deadliest Secret we all must share – highlighting the link between alcohol and 7 different types of cancer
• It’s rather ironic that it's left to QuitLit authors and podcasters to draw attention to the dangers of alcohol – but perhaps the message is more powerful coming from people who have struggled with dependence
• So please buy Meg's book and share this podcast to help us get the message out there to some of the many people who need to hear it
• Megs book is called Intoxicating Lies and is available on Amazon
• Her website is called intoxicatinglies.com

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