Do you ever have a personal epiphany more than once? It might be tempting to feel like you failed to hear it the first time. But what if it was by design? What if there are some “aha!” moments that require time to release, like a vitamin? Listen to this episode if you are judging yourself for not yet making the changes you know you need to make. Ge…

After an unplanned pause, Danette returns to the Soft Shoulder with reflections on what it means to tend to your grief in a self loving way, the importance of language in this process and the tenderness of loss. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: http://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post Grief Tending appeared…

No music? No problem! Danette embraces imperfection by recording this personal message for you while cooking pasta in her kitchen. If you are in a fog and having a hard time finding your way out, listen in. May this episode be a tiny flashlight helping you move closer to your own light. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get on the waitlist for The A…

Hey Hey Paula! You’re an awesome human deserving of love, romance and respect no matter what. This podcast is to help you reflect on what you want from relationships, while kindly inquiring where you got that desire from in the first place. What changes when you make yourself your primary partner? Are you a rebel when it comes to love? Get the book…

After over 20 years of self marriage, Danette can tell you how deciding to be in a conscious, committed relationship with herself helped her move through breakups and become more of herself in the process. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the…

Whether you like it or not, you’re already in a lifelong relationship with yourself. Literally, till death do you part. If you look at your relationship with yourself as a marriage, how would you say it is going? This episode is a guided reflection on what your #couplegoals could be for yourself. Yours is a marriage that can be saved – it can even …

Weeeeeee'rrrrre back-ackack, so LET US DO OUR SHOW FOR CHRRRIISTSAKES! We're talkin-ack-' bout Long Island's own sweet heart, Billy Joel. From his Rough and tumble New York upbringing, time in an adorable gang, 2 peice organ and drum based heavy metal band, all the way to the River of Dreams. But not to worry we also delve in to Long Island toddler…

At least, not as complicated as we might be making it seem. At least, just as complicated as loving anyone at all. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact …

In celebration of Danette’s new book Crash Bloom: a creative guide for growing through your breakup (just in time for Valentine’s Day) this episode offers a reminder that sometimes we all need a little cocoon time in our lives. Not just when healing from a breakup. If you need a little hope that your wings are coming soon and they just might be glo…

Finally ready to face that decluttering project that has been looming in your subconscious? Feeling the new-year-new-energy feels and have the urge to make some changes in your living space? BUT – you aren’t sure where to start and you don’t have time to read the (maybe?) hundreds of books Danette has read on this topic? This is your episode for ke…

It’s been a minute! Danette emerges from her unexpected and unannounced break to share where she’s at and let things get a little weird. This is the last episode of 2023 – may you remember how loved you are as you bring this year to a close. Thank you so much for listening and allowing the Soft Shoulder Podcast to be a part of your listening life. …

Feel like you don’t remember who you are? How long has it been since you’ve really touched base with that most loving and wise part of you? Just like a marriage that has gone stale, your relationship with yourself can sometimes seem to fade without you realizing it. Even if you’ve been married to yourself for 22 years! Join Danette for a 5-day expe…

All that wonderful advanced reading you’ve been doing about dating and relationships and compatibility…could it be working against you? Sometimes all that personal growth wisdom can suck us into scrutiny as we try to “not waste our time”. But do you even like this person? Listen in as Danette helps you zoom way out and get an optimistic perspective…

We all talk to ourselves. Mostly in the privacy of our own thoughts, and most of the time it’s not very nice. So often we don’t even know we are doing it! Inspired by the book Chatter, Danette offers a fun little experiment to help us get out of our heads and talk about ourselves from a little further away. Not all gossips are terrible. You can be …

We love the idea of an overnight success, but would you be able to accommodate it if it happened to you? This episode explores the role of capacity when it comes to personal growth, especially when we are in an era of expansion, pleasure and success. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social med…

What are we really doing when we visualize our “future selves”? Is this one of those personal growth tools that doesn’t seem to work for you? Maybe it doesn’t have to be so precious and ceremonial. In this episode, Danette nerds out on her love for future selves, past selves and using our imaginations to feel good. Join Self Love Colouring Club: ww…

It begins with a song lyric by Ani DiFranco and opens into some big landscape-shifting questions. What happens when we suddenly know the story we thought we were living has changed direction? Have you ever received news that made your regular day seem surreal? Often this experience is triggered by events that are out of our control, illuminating wh…

So is a messy desk. We often make a mess when we make art. But this is about the particular, underappreciated creative act of making S P A C E. For any of you who need a soothing voice to listen to while you clear off your counters, tidy your desktop and wipe the slate clean. It can start with a desk or a drawer. Making space can make room for so m…

When you’re dating, people often ask what you are looking for in a partner. Is this the best question to be asking? Have you ever met someone who “checks all the boxes” but…it doesn’t seem to be working? Or how about being surprised by a fulfilling connection with someone who somehow doesn’t check many (or any!) of your boxes? If you enjoy the powe…

There is only so much preparation you can do without getting wet. Love is not something you can “get right” before diving in. And, most importantly, diving in is not the only way in. This episode is for you if you want to start dating and sharing intimacy with other people, but are afraid to take the plunge. Maybe the loving pace for you is another…

Let’s first put some giant air quotes around the word “failed”. Do you look at the trail of relationships in your past and feel a little shamey? Like this is evidence of you not getting love right? Listen in for a pep talk on how making a resume of your relationship past can help you reframe your own personal love story. Podcast shout-out to Pivot …

If you’ve been asking yourself this question lately, you’re not alone. Can you hear the hidden beliefs behind this question? The truth is, there are many good reasons why you might be tired. Also, you are not a robot. Curl on up over here and let Danette ease your mind – self love doesn’t need you to prove anything. Join Self Love Colouring Club: w…

Sometimes it really is too late. And “saving” your best gifts might be the sure way to destroy them before they ever get a chance. In this episode, Danette asks you a strange question that could unwrap the bow on a gift you most want to give. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all…

Danette’s train of thought takes you on the scenic route of why she loves playing the long game of self love – and why you might love it too. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The po…

Spoiler alert – you are still worth loving. And maybe you need to hear some kind words from someone who has been there…and even wrote a book about it. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/conta…

How does it feel when someone worries about you? We often think that worry is a sign we care about something – but is it? Or is it just a really terrible fantasy? In this episode Danette explores why NOT worrying about someone when they are going through a big life heartbreak is a powerful way to show your love. And sometimes that someone is YOU. B…

Ever had a dozen paint chips taped to your wall while you make that very important decision? Ever stand frozen in the cosmetics aisle choosing between Teal Me A Secret and Peacock Don’t Stop? Not everyone cares about these things but you do. What if you love the colour but hate the name? This episode is a creative pep talk for colour nerds, languag…

New Year or not, sometimes there can be too much of a good thing. Do you find yourself trying to find the “right” way to reflect and set intentions for the year ahead? Or feeling like you don’t have enough energy to honour the New Year traditions you have enjoyed in the past? In this episode, Danette meets you in the place of ritual fatigue. Someti…

Metaphors galore in this one! Are you currently dating, or reflecting upon your dating patterns? How present is your own self love, when it comes to the game of dating? In this episode, Danette playfully asks you some powerful questions to consider using inspiration from 3 classic board games. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanct…

To love yourself, you must know yourself. That means witnessing is often the first step towards self love. But so many of us don’t realize we are taking on the role of “judge” instead of “witness”. What would it be like to pay attention, without judging? Especially in those times where we are struggling to cope, and engaging in habits we wouldn’t l…

It’s the Birthday Letter Ritual. You’ve heard about it before on the podcast. You may have even started your own letter writing practice. For the first time, Danette will be offering a live workshop to guide you in getting started on (or back into) your own collection of letters to celebrate a lifetime. It is a surprisingly deep, fun and powerful p…

What if you found out you really weren’t a Virgo after all? Or if you got to choose your own adventure on the Enneagram? Have you ever found yourself seeking guidance from a system more often than from yourself? If you are into self-awareness, personality tests can be fun and illuminating. In this episode Danette shares a helpful way to enjoy perso…

Ask yourself this powerful question Danette heard in a movie. And don’t worry about whether or not the movie was any good – because the question is fantastic and could save you a lot of heartache. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Before You Blow Everyt…

How ARE You Gonna Love Anybody Else? If you don’t love yourself, that is. We are supposed to assume it’s a rhetorical question…but what if you tried to answer it? In this episode Danette illuminates how a distracting debate might be taking us further away from the love we seek. Let’s be self lovers, not fighters. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.…

The Self Love Colouring Club is back and more wonderful than ever. In this episode, Danette nerds out on the soothing delights of chilled-out colouring and makes herself laugh, as usual. Come for the invitation to colour, stay for the Karate Kid references and loving reframe of what it means to “go through the motions”. Spoiler alert: it can be a b…

A powerful self love exercise from reality tv? Of course. But it’s only powerful if you DO it. In this episode, a playful take on inner child work & practical tips to make it happen. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Say it to Your Face appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.…

Do you actually have a problem? What if the only problem you have is the belief that there is a problem at all? In this episode, Danette talks about two popular ways we like to judge ourselves, how you can notice if you are doing it, and shares a powerful writing prompt to change the story, right now. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podc…

When it comes to creating the life you dream of, do you tend to focus on mindset, or action? Do you prefer to manifest by being your future self, or by doing the things your future self needs you to do? In this episode Danette uses dance as a metaphor for what’s really going on when everything is flowing towards what we want most. Mentioned in this…

So, you know this relationship isn’t what you want. You haven’t been happy in it for a long time. And if you’re honest, you know you really aren’t all that motivated to try and save it – even if you did believe saving it would work. So why are you still there? Are you waiting for a “good enough” reason? If so, this episode is your permission slip. …

In this 100th episode of The Soft Shoulder Podcast, Danette celebrates the importance of making self love YOURS. It is an art, after all – and sometimes that looks like strutting around your neighbourhood to the very sexy Alannah Myles. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Love is What You Want it to Be appeared first on Radi…

Have you been sidetracked without realizing it? Got a little caught up in your fallback plan and forgot what the dream was in the first place? We all do it. This is your loving wakeup call to take a look around, remember why you are here, and re-focus on where your heart really wants to go. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The pos…

Does the word “abundance” kinda make your eyes glaze over? You know it’s supposed to be inspiring, but it just falls flat somehow? In this episode Danette shares the affirmation that is rocking her world right now. Consider it a spell to break you free from scarcity thinking – or at the very least, help you declutter your Tupperware. the art of sel…

Sometimes you know the end is near for a while before it actually comes into being. This episode is for those who may be newly breaking up or almost breaking up – along with a personal story of how self love does not stop your heart from breaking. It just makes it less scary. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Truth Telling…

How would you define “Self Love”? What about “Authenticity”? How might your definitions reveal opportunities for you to love and accept yourself even more? This episode is a gentle reminder to notice your binary thinking about self love, and allow it to exist in you, as you are, always. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Wh…

Here we goooooooo! The Bee Gee's, from Spicks and Specks all the way up to Omega Man. The brothers Gibb with some guest stars like lil brother baby Andy, Kenny Rogers and Canada's Celine Dion. We're talkin Ma$e, Aaron Neville tulpa's in the WCW wrestling world, Leonard Nimoy having a conversation with a laser disc player, Punky Brewster and her dog…

If you’re going through it, you are not alone. This episode is a friendly wave of solidarity from the wild times of grief and loss, reminding you that you are not alone, it’s okay to hate this, and maybe deep diving into your favourite absurd entertainment is the medicine you didn’t know you needed. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcas…

Some say it’s not realistic to expect any one person to fulfill all your needs in a marriage. We have much higher expectations these days – seeking life partners who are also running buddies, best friends, business collaborators, co-parents, and erotic playmates with compatable rising signs. Good news: when you are marrying yourself, you can have a…

WE ARE BACK AND TALKIN' HARRY NILSSON! One of our absolute favourites from the late 60's and 70's. Known for his absolutely awesome voice, campyness and unique genius throughout his strange and fast paced career. Also on this episode Stacey drops the atomic bomb of all Dog in pants news, we discuss if Alan Thicke wrote Mmmmm mmmm mmmm mmmmm, Adam S…

April showers brings yet another hour ... of talking about one of our favourites, Heart! We wish we could come up with a good euphemism for the driving blood pumping duo at the center of this band but we're afraid we're at a loss for words to describe the Wilson sisters and their ever evolving group of musicians who make up this amazing band. We're…

Spring has sprung and we're talking about the Free Design. A little known wholesome, smooth and cute family band from late sixties/ early 70's New York City. If you've never heard of the Free Design, this is a perfect chance to come find out a little, you won't regret it, we promise. As usual, we are definitely always on track and for sure haven't …