We all have conscious and unconscious stories, reels, automatic reactions that are pasty of a bigger story we tell ourself. Brene brown describes a cu flight she had with her husband and from that fight forward they always say “the story I’m telling myself right now is…” So what stories are you telling yourself? That are actually part of a current …

Drs. Tom and Bev discuss principles behind Neuroplasticity, which is the ability to change and reshape your brain. Brain formation that was once thought to be set and unchangeable in childhood - which kept Amanda from any heavy metal head banging - we now know is possible to change well into our lives. Neurogenesis, building new brain connections, …

Current data trends indicate we as a culture are getting diagnosed more and more with mental health struggles. Be it Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Addiction, or anything else—so many more people are struggling today. In this episode we share what it’s like sitting in the therapist’s chair helping clients face today’s dil…

Often, the focus in counseling and psychology is on the PROBLEM... but what are the hallmarks of a Healthy Life? Join in on the conversation as Drs. Tom and Bev discuss a list of basic needs that they have created over years of talking to people who have found these commonly missing in wounded living. This list also addresses Abraham Maslow’s hiera…

Are you kind and compassionate toward yourself or do you have a harsh inner critic? We can develop a harsh inner critic from people on our lives-parents, pastors, teachers-who expected perfection while forgetting a core principle Jesus taught was how to love well. This episode talks about confronting your harsh inner critic with grace and forgivene…

A wiseman once said, “Those who do not deal with their past are destined to repeat it.” There is neurobiological proof that this can happen. In the Soul Healing Love Model we say, “If you don’t deal with your past, it will come back to bite you!” People often avoid going back and looking at past hurts honestly because they do not want to live in th…

Join Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom to explore what trauma is and does in our lives. Trauma is the lasting emotional response that often results from living through distressing events. There is Simple Trauma like a terrible car accident, which we call a little T, or Complex Trauma which can be emotional, physical or sexual abuse that happens over time…

There are certain therapies that are considered more specific “parts therapies” like Internal Family System developed by Richard Schwartz, but truly parts are as old as Freud’s id, ego and superego. Within Soul Healing Love our parts are those that hold our Soul Wounds and then live out certain adaptations. The hard thing is, often these adaptation…

Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom explore How You Know When You Are Getting Emotionally Healthy. The Examine characteristics of healthy people and cover: 1.Self-Awareness, knowing your personality characheristics as well as the wounds of your past that may affect your behavior 2. Getting rid of Jealousy, and not comparing or competing with others 3. Find…

Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom continue to explore the unconscious Defense Mechanism that inform your thoughts and behaviors. Self-Awareness is the goal as they take a deeper dive into the mind. Soul wounds from the past can create the need for defense mechanisms like the need to repress pain, project onto others things we do not want to see in oursel…

None of us as therapists, counselors, life coaches… anything psychological… works be here today without the pioneering work of Sigmund Freud. Freud was the father of psychology and psychoanalysis and introduced the idea of exploring our unconscious minds, which actually is the vast majority of our brains! Join as Amanda and Drs. Tom and Bev discuss…

Do you put others above yourself even to the point of your own harm? Do you say "yes" when you really need to set a healthy boundary with a firm "no"? If you struggle with these things or know others who do, this will speak to you. Listen to Dr. Bev and Amanda unpack what codependency really is and how to move out of it into healthy relationships.…

Have you ever looked at life and thought "I'm not sure this is what I signed up for?!" Lisa Brooks is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker that worked for 20 years in child abuse and neglect to find herself with vicarious trauma herself. She took a deep dive into her own personal healing and found a new passion in helping others see that overwork, ove…

We are so excited to have our first guest speaker on the SHL podcast, David Johnson, who is the founder and owner of Silent Images. On this week's episode, David and Amanda discuss healthy ways to manage our mental health. Want to know more about Silent Images or Compassion & Light, visit their website: https://silentimages.org…

This week's episode highlights some of the common hardships and losses many of us have faced during the pandemic and the overwhelming grief that has come upon us. Listen to the full episode to hear more about how to be kind to yourself and accept and process the grief that many of us are feeling today.…

This is 1 of 2 podcasts recorded during quarantine. Dr. Bev and Amanda share their own struggles with fears and frustrations of being away from family, friends, and work, along with ways that they work to find peace in the uncertainty of a global pandemic. They share insights into building resilience and finding new perspectives in the midst of gre…

Understand how your brain and body are affected by Trauma, learn skills to build empathy and Mindsight from Dr. Dan Siegel and our favorite-the Re-Mind Exercise created by Dr. Bev. Part of Rewiring our Brain is through Repetition of the newer, healthier ways of thinking. Dr. Bev has created an excellent resource to identify your current negative th…

Our brains are amazing, resilient organs! And years ago most scientists and doctors thought it was pretty set after age 7. Thank goodness for new neuroscience research with MRI's, SPECT scans and other research that has been done that shows how our brains can adapt and change: Neuroplasticity. While trauma "sticks with us" and does move our brain t…

Gratitude and Thanksgiving are for more than one day a year. In fact, the practice of gratitude will increase serotonin and dopamine in your brain, neurotransmitters that boost your mood and energy. It can also change the shape of your brain and decrease your likelihood to struggle with depression. Please join host Amanda Rodgers Cumbo with Dr. Bev…

Our last episode walked you through the Forgiving Experience, a tool not to be used lightly. It is a heavy work to forgive and a merciful gift to be forgiven. But what then? Once I've asked for forgiveness and you've granted it, what do we do next? If I still get sad or mad or triggered, does that mean I haven't forgiven you? And how long should we…

What is Forgiveness? How do I Forgive? What do I do once I think and feel that I have Forgiven but I still hurt or react when I think about the offenses? These are just a few of the questions we hope to answer in this episode where Drs. Tom and Bev unpack Forgiveness and teach us the Soul Healing Love tool, The Forgiving Experience. We talk about w…

This is our Final Episode in the Personal Perspective series, one in which counselors from our practice Rodgers Christian Counseling have discussed how they teach and use various exercises from the Soul Healing Love Method. In this episode Erin Sweitzer, MA, LMFT, joins us to talk through the GIFT Exercise to help dig down into the primary emotion …

We continue our Personal Perspective series as we are joined again by Steven Land, MA, LPCA, one of the counselors at our practice in the greater Charlotte area of NC. Steven joins Amanda and Dr. Bev Rodgers in a discussion about the Soul Healogram. He has a great saying: Part One of the Soul Healogram and the Genogram is like the really messy, gna…

We are continuing our Personal Perspective series as we are joined by another counselor at Rodgers Christian Counseling, Rachel Cunningham, MA, LPCA. Rachel earned her MA from Liberty University in Counseling in 2017 and her Bachelor’s degree in Human Services from Anderson University in 2014. Rachel is passionate about connecting with clients on a…

We embark on a New Series with each of our staff members at Rodgers Christian Counseling where they will walk through one of their favorite tools from the Soul Healing Love Model and how they use it Personally and Professionally! Our first guest is counselor Steven Land who has earned an MA in Professional Counseling as well as an MA in Human Servi…

Back By Request! This episode is the first of 2 that are based on a listener request to get a deeper look at understanding our Basic Fear. A Soul Wound is a basic need in childhood that impacts us on a soul level. We then internalize it-through inferiority or inadequacy-and that wound creates a Basic Fear that we then adapt to. We want to look more…

Sometimes we can't tell someone how to help us or even figure out how to help ourselves when we don't even know What We Really Need. The Digging Deeper exercise (more info in Episode 6) in Soul Healing Love ends with the question, "What do you Really Need?" so that you can work from Reacting to a situation and move into healing the deeper, basic ne…

All of the insight in the world--while very helpful in learning about ourselves and our motivations--will only lead you so far. We borrow Dr. Richard Stewart's famous phrase "If nothing changes, nothing changes." Stewart pioneered Behavioral Marital Therapy, and we share details about how to move from learning about your Soul Wounds and basic needs…

This week we recap the GIFT exercise to help you understand the root of your anger and move into more depth with the Digging Deeper exercise. With 5 questions, we move from the reaction of anger into the depth of the Soul Wound that causes the large anger reaction. Typically, the bigger the anger, the more likely it is tied to a past occurrence whe…

Are you a Rage-A-Holic? Or are you constantly Frustrated? Do Your loved ones tell you that you have an Anger Problem? Today we discuss the GIFT Exercise, it is our GIFT to you to help you understand what you are really feeling. Anger is a secondary emotion; it's an outward reaction to a deeper, more primary feeling. Until we can learn for ourselves…

There are so many factors that can be contributing factors to what shapes our soul and what inflicts Soul Wounds. In this episode we explore how society, gender, cultural messages of shame, and certainly our family of origin--the family we grew up in--can leave us with Soul Wounds. With today's episode we want to help you identify both sources of t…

We all have basic fears that we carry with us, and these fears create a narrative that we tell ourself: messages that we tell us about us. But fears are not innate. They are learned fears, and since they are learned, we can UNLEARN these fears and combat these messages so that we can live in healing and freedom.…

Today we dive into the Neuroscience behind trauma and how your brain processes trauma to understand why you react to past hurts or Soul Wounds as we call them in Soul Healing Love. Learn more about how your primitive, lizard brain takes over when you are triggered and how the Fight, Flight, or Freeze system activates. We talk through anatomy of the…

Soul Healing Love is a model of counseling that helps you look at yourself--your current ways of thinking and behaving that are keeping you from growth, the way you lived as you grew up in your own family, and how you react to people and your environment--so that you can move into a life of positive change and growth. Today's episode is with the fo…