Our friend Julie - It's ok to sometimes feel sad

Mindful Builder

Welcome back to another episode of the Mindful Builder podcast! Today we’re joined again by our friend and expert psychologist, Julie Mounter, for a conversation about mental health and depression. Whether you’re struggling right now, or worried about someone else, we want to give you the tools you need to face it head-on.

Julie starts the episode by outlining what exactly depression is. While everyone experiences low moments in their life, clinical depression includes prolonged sadness and lack of joy, lasting for more than two weeks and impacting day-to-day functioning. She then highlights some key symptoms to watch out for in yourself or others:

• Persistent feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
• No longer enjoying activities they typically enjoy.
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
• Withdrawing from family or friends.
• Constant irritability or restlessness
• Increased use of alcohol or drugs
• Significant fatigue and lack of energy
• Fluctuations in weight and appetite

The conversation then shifts to why men, in particular, find it difficult to open up about mental health issues. Stereotypes and societal pressures often equate emotional vulnerability with weakness, so a lot of men end up suppressing negative emotions rather than seeking the help they need. However, acknowledging and addressing mental health challenges is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Julie shares that creating a support network and maintaining social connections can be a significant protective factor against mental health issues. For men, especially, fostering these connections can be life-changing. Hamish backs this up with a recent experience reaching out to his workout group during a low period. With a simple message, he received a flood of support and concern.

The Role of Medication

Medication for mental health carries a stigma with it that prevents a lot of people from getting the help they need. When we bring this up to Julie she explains that medications for mental health should be thought of in the same way as medication for any physical illnesses. It isn’t a “cop-out” or cheating; it is a legitimate and often necessary form of treatment.

The Influence of Social Media

We also touch on the impact of social media on mental health. Julie explained how the intermittent rewards from likes and comments can make social media addictive, much like gambling. This constant need for validation can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and depression.

Adding a light-hearted note, Hamish shared how accidentally mowing over his phone led to a surprisingly peaceful weekend without the constant ping of notifications. Disconnecting from social media, even for a little while, can be great for your mental health.

One of the most valuable parts of our discussion was about how to talk to someone we're worried about. Julie provided excellent advice– be genuine, be patient, and listen. Avoid giving advice immediately; instead, be a supportive listener. Reassure them that they are not alone, and that help is available.

We hope this episode provides insight and support to anyone navigating their mental health journey or supporting someone else through theirs. Remember that it’s okay to feel sad, and it’s okay to seek help. You are not alone in this journey.

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