95. Healing from Betrayal Using Internal Family Systems (IFS)

After the Affair

Welcome to another episode of 'After the Affair' with your host, Luke Shillings.
In this episode, titled "Healing from Betrayal Using Internal Family Systems (IFS)," we explore how the therapeutic approach of IFS can help both betrayed and unfaithful partners understand and heal from the pain of infidelity.
Join Luke as he delves into the concept of internal parts, how they influence our emotions and behaviours, and practical steps to foster self-compassion and personal growth.

Key Topics Discussed:

1. Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS):

   • Understanding the basics of IFS and the concept of internal parts.
   • The role of the Self in harmonising these parts.

2. The Betrayed Partner and IFS:

   • Identifying parts like the Protector, the Exiled Part, and the Angry Part.
   • Engaging with these parts to unburden and integrate them for healing.

3. The Unfaithful Partner and IFS:

   • Identifying parts like the Exiled Part, the Impulsive Part, and the Guilty Part.
   • Working with these parts to understand motivations and foster genuine change.

4. Practical Steps for Both Partners:

   • Techniques to identify and engage with internal parts.
   • Building a support network and fostering self-compassion.

5. Personal Reflection:

   • Luke shares his own experience with identifying and working with internal parts during his healing journey.

Listener Takeaways:

• Empower Yourself: Recognise your own strength and resilience in the healing process.
• Focus on Self-Compassion: Approach your internal parts with curiosity and compassion to foster healing.
• Practical Steps: Learn practical techniques to identify, engage with, and unburden your internal parts for a harmonious inner world.

Reflective Questions:

1. Which parts of yourself have you noticed emerging in response to betrayal, and how have they influenced your thoughts and behaviors?
2. Can you identify any protective parts that may be trying to shield you from further pain? How might you approach these parts with curiosity and compassion?
3. How might self-compassion play a role in your healing journey? What steps can you take to nurture this part of yourself?

Resources Mentioned:

• Books and Articles on IFS: Explore literature on Internal Family Systems for deeper understanding and practical guidance.
• Mindfulness Practices: Incorporate mindfulness techniques to stay grounded and manage stress.

Connect with Luke Shillings:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: [e-mail]

Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always seek the guidance of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding IFS.