When Did Love Become Uncool?

Beyond Your Default

Main Idea: Exploring the concept of love and its diminishing presence in modern conversations, this episode challenges listeners to rethink the role of love in their lives, its varying forms, and how societal perceptions have shifted love from a foundational value to something often sidelined or viewed skeptically.

Summary of the Show: In this insightful episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead dive deep into the complexities of love, asking the provocative question: “When did love become uncool?” They explore why love, despite being central to human experience and relationships, is often dismissed or downplayed in today’s culture. George reflects on his personal journey with love, from sermons he gave as a teenager to his current understanding of different types of love—ranging from agape (unconditional love) to pragma (enduring love). The conversation touches on how love has been commercialized, trivialized, and distorted by pop culture, leading many to shy away from embracing or discussing love openly. They also delve into how true love goes beyond romantic notions and encompasses self-love, compassion, and commitment to others' well-being.

Quotes:

• “Love isn’t just a fleeting feeling; it’s what makes happiness deep and lasting when we tie it into everything we do.” - George B. Thomas
• “When love drives us to seek justice and fairness, we help build a more compassionate world.” - George B. Thomas
• “It’s okay to be vulnerable in showing your love. If discomfort equals growth, why not embrace it?” - George B. Thomas
• “True love isn’t supposed to be stressful; it’s the unlock element for everything else in our lives.” - George B. Thomas

Scriptures:

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
• 1 John 4:18: "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."
• Proverbs 10:12: "Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs."
• Colossians 3:14: "And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."

Reflective Questions:

1. Self-Assessment: How comfortable are you with openly expressing love in your life? Are there areas where you hold back due to fear or societal expectations?
2. Cultural Perception: In what ways has pop culture influenced your understanding and expression of love? How might that perception be limiting your relationships or self-growth?
3. Types of Love: Which forms of love (romantic, self-love, agape) are most prevalent in your life? How can you cultivate a more balanced approach to expressing and receiving love?
4. Barriers to Love: What past hurts or societal pressures keep you from fully embracing love? How can you begin to dismantle those barriers?
5. Daily Practice: What intentional practices can you incorporate into your routine to make love a more active and consistent part of your life?