Nesting & Other Child-Centered Parenting Plans With Dr. Ann Buscho

Divorce Dialogues

Kids don’t get a say in whether or not their parents divorce. And yet, it’s often the children who bear the brunt of the disruption. One strategy for minimizing the upheaval in your kids’ lives is a parenting arrangement known as birdnesting. But what does a successful nesting plan look like? And how do divorcing couples navigate this kind of arrangement successfully? Dr. Ann Buscho is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in family issues related to divorce, parenting, parenting plans and co-parenting counseling. Dr. Buscho has both personal and professional experience with nesting, co-parenting, step-parenting and single-parenting, and she is the author of The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Buscho joins Katherine to explain what a birdnesting parenting arrangement looks like and why it’s particularly helpful in the early stages of separation and divorce. She shares the top three things to consider in designing a parenting plan, offering advice on maximizing the child’s time with each parent and making the transitions as smooth as possible. Listen in for Dr. Buscho’s insight on minimizing your child’s exposure to conflict and learn what divorcing couples need to do to nest successfully. Topics Covered What a birdnesting arrangement looks like and how it works Why nesting is particularly helpful in the early stages of separation and divorce How nesting is usually transitional but can also be a long-term solution Why explicit agreements are key to making a nesting arrangement go smoothly How COVID forced many divorcing couples into nesting Dr. Buscho’s top 3 things to consider in designing a parenting plan The continuum from parallel parenting to collaborative co-parenting Why parallel parenting is better than exposing kids to conflict Dr. Buscho’s insight on maximizing the child’s time with each parent How to make the transition between parents smoother for children of divorce What divorcing couples need to do to nest successfully Connect with Dr. Ann Buscho Dr. Buscho’s Website: https://drannbuscho.com/ Dr. Buscho on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drannbuscho/ Dr. Buscho on Twitter: https://twitter.com/abuschophd Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: [e-mail] Call [phone] Resources The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce by Ann Gold Buscho, PhD: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Parents-Guide-to-Birdnesting/Ann-Gold-Buscho/9781507214091 Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/