How To Unmask & Live Your Truth with Ben de Pfeiffer-Key

Full Circle: Finding Your Way Home

In this episode of the Full Circle Podcast, I welcome Ben de Pfeiffer-Key, a Founder, Consultant & Coach who has been on a profound journey of self-discovery and unmasking to live as his authentic self.

As a gay man navigating the intricate intersections of ADHD and Autism, Ben has been faced with many uncertainties about his identity over the years.

Most notably -

What defines him?

What gets in his way of being his true self?

And how can he bridge the gap between the two?

Today, Ben joins me to discuss the profound journey he has taken;

from shedding the mask he wore for years to passionately guiding others on their self-discovery journeys and removing a few systemic barriers along the way.

Ready to live life on your own terms?

Tune in and explore the empowering insights that will inspire your unique journey.

Quotes

“The work that I do now is kind of an extension of the work I've done on myself in self-discovery and reflecting back on my life and how I've got to where I am now in my 40th year, going what's made me who I am, what gets in the way of me being my true self and kind of bridging the gap between that.” – 02:15

“In 2020 we had the murder of George Floyd…and for me personally, it made me take a real look at myself and actually go, I know so little about this conversation…” – 03:58

“I'd gone through my entire childhood and teenage years with even the word ‘gay’ being used as a slur. So I had to hide that side of me, when I didn't even understand it myself or articulate what it meant.” – 07:39

“It's exhausting though, because you are putting yourself in situations of vulnerability. Regardless of whether it's work or life, you need to feel safe enough to do that. S I always say, if it doesn't feel like a safe environment, then think about whether it is the right space to share openly about things.” – 29:04

Time stamps

00:00 – An introduction to Ben

01:42 – What does it mean to “Drop the Mask”

03:38 – What led to Ben discovering his purpose

06:29 – What it was like for Ben growing up as a gay man

09:46 – Ben’s Coming Out experience

14:27 – The purpose of wearing a mask

18:16 – How we have been conditioned to play a role

21:36 – How Ben has trained himself to keep the mask off

22:35 – Managing Triggers

25:46 – What does “Being True to Yourself” mean

29:34 – Ben’s advice about self-trust

30:29 – How businesses can create a safe, inclusive, work space

34:17 – Ben’s non-negotiables for his well being

38:56 – The biggest lessons Ben has learnt on his journey

42:40 – Ben’s self-discovery tip for listeners

43:48 – How to connect with Ben

44:28 – Gillian’s closing thoughts

Ben’s Socials

https://www.bendpk.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/company/dpkcoaching

https://www.instagram.com/dpk.consulting/

Gillian Socials

https://www.instagram.com/the.master.coach/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillian-mcmichael/
https://www.facebook.com/GillianMcMichaelMasterCoach
https://www.gillianmcmichael.com

Full Circle Global Socials
https://www.instagram.com/fullcircleglobal/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/full-circle-development-consultancy/
https://www.facebook.com/fullcircleglobal/
https://fullcircleglobal.com

Order my book, “Coming Home: A Guide To Being Your True Self”

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