Bodybuilding, Betrayal, and Murder in Oceanside, CA: The Killer Sally/Sally McNeil Case

Housewives of True Crime

In the beachy, California town of Oceanside sits Camp Pendleton, and in 1995, a crime like no other was committed by a former Camp Pendleton Marine.

On the night of Valentine’s Day, former Marine Sergeant Sally McNeil found herself at the center of a murder when her husband, Ray McNeil, was shot and killed. After observing abuse in her family throughout her childhood, history repeated itself in Sally’s second marriage when she became the victim of abuse by her husband, a former marine and fellow bodybuilder, and ultimately murdered him.

While Ray was cheating on Sally, abusing her, and taking steroids throughout their marriage and careers as bodybuilders, Sally had many instances of aggression and violence against others, and the killing of Ray McNeil led to a sentence of almost 20 years in prison for Sally.

“Ray was a cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater.” – Tabitha

In today’s episode, Tab shares the details of Ray McNeil’s murder with Gretch and unpacks some of Netflix’s recent documentary, Killer Sally. Join in for a little breakdown, whether you’ve watched the series or not, and as usual, you can expect Gretch and Tab’s honest thoughts on, well, everything.

“Joe Rogan does it and pumps the iron, so why can’t Ray do it and pump the iron?” – Tabitha

Disclaimer: This case includes mentions of domestic violence.

In This Episode

(1:48) Gretchen and Tab catch up about Thanksgiving week, curse words, and the Housewives of True Crime YouTube channel

(7:26) Introducing this week’s case – Sally McNeil and Ray McNeil

(26:59) Sally’s career in the military begins to fall apart and their finances become more dire

(31:23) A business proposition from a stranger

(35:50) Ray’s success, his consistent cheating, and Sally’s confrontation

(42:27) Valentine’s Day (1995) – the night of the murder

(50:22) Sally’s children are taken and she goes to trial

(59:49) Sally’s granted parole in 2020, moves to a halfway house, and gets remarried

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