Ep.10: Self-Soothing vs. Self-Settling and Why Co-Regulation Is The Answer To Support Your Baby's Nervous System

Mothering From Within

Self-Soothing vs. Self-Settling and Why Co-Regulation Is The Answer To Support Your Baby's Nervous System
In this episode of 'Mothering from Within,' I, Kaili Ets, a pediatric occupational therapist and mom of two, dive deeper into the topic of your baby's nervous system and the concept of self-regulation.
I chat about the age old debate of 'self-soothing' and why this is a very mis-understood concept in the sleep world especially. I also talk about the difference between self-soothing and self-settling, and the important role that co-regulation plays in nurturing your baby's emotional and developmental needs. I go over signs of dysregulation and I share practical strategies for daily interactions and activities that promote a secure and loving environment for your little one, while supporting their nervous system.
Remember, your presence and response are invaluable in helping your baby's brain grow and thrive. Grab a cup of tea, tuck in your little ones, and join this enlightening conversation aimed at empowering you to embrace motherhood authentically.
00:00 Introduction to Self-Regulation
01:30 Understanding Your Baby's Nervous System
04:11 The Myth of Self-Soothing
11:38 The Dance of Co-Regulation
19:32 Sensory-Based Co-Regulation Strategies
23:59 The Power of Synchrony
26:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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