When Shame Blocks Repair

Reimagining Love

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.

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Access this episode's companion worksheet here

Reimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"

Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit

Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to Shame

Building Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow by Joseph Burgo

Order Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day

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