Teinamarrie Scuderi: A More Loving World Starts with Me

Stories of Hope in Hard Times

Teinamarrie dreamed about competing in a Miss America pageant and making a difference in the world. She did both, and teaches us how to love all people—including those who have AIDS and are LGBTQ+. But love must always start within ourselves.

Episode Discussion Points

• Her experience with the Miss America Program
• How she learned to be elegant (for a tom girl)
• Why she kept going even when she didn’t win
• The question she asked the judges about wearing swimsuits and their answer
• The amazing lessons learned doing Miss America Personal Development Seminars
• Competing with yourself, and do better than you did before
• Walking and presenting yourself elegantly and with confidence
• Core values like integrity, family, truthfulness, loyalty
• Confidence comes from setting and reaching little goals
• The power of setting goals
• Interview skills
• Importance of being punctual
• The cool thing about learning skills is they stay with you the rest of your life, whereas wearing a crown is one and done.
• How her work in college with the Utah AIDS foundation led her to learn to love people unconditionally
• Why it is important to learn to love without conditions
• You can love people and not like them or agree with them.
• "The opposite of love is fear.”
• Why she and her husband started Transgender Education Advocates of Utah back in 2003
• Her journey to love people as they are and not judge.
• To overcome a fear of people you need to first learn about them, and second interact with them and not have them be a faceless person.
• Keys to loving people—especially those who have hurt you
• Love yourself
• Forgive yourself and others
• Don’t judge or assume--Remembering you don’t know others situation
• Put yourself in their shoes
• Be brave to shine and be your best self. "Don’t dim your sparkle."

Favorite Quotes

• “It wasn’t about that crown. It wasn’t about the title, it wasn’t about the scholarship money. It was about helping us become the absolute possible woman we could be.”
• One of Teinamarrie’s coaches taught her, “We are not in competition with everybody else. We are in competition with ourselves.”
• “There is only one me. No one can compete with me.”
• “Shift out of road rage and shift into love”
• "If I want a more loving, welcoming, compassionate world, it starts with me.

Resources Teinamarrie Recommends

• Any book or seminar by Tony Robbins
• 'The Game of Life and How to Play It' by Florence Scovel Shinn
• 'Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts'

Connect with Teinamarrie

• Website:Teinamarrie’s Treasures https://www.teinamarrie.com/

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/teinamarrie-scuderi-a-more-loving-world-starts-with-me