Daily Duty Friend Julie

The Secret Tapes by Laura Tremaine

I think the Daily Duty friend - someone you see or speak to almost daily - is like the Holy Grail of friends, but I didn't have a Daily Duty friend in adulthood until I was FORTY.

And then when she arrived it was from the strangest of sources: Volleyball!

Julie and I had been close friends before our daughters (both named Lucy) took up club volleyball together, but the time, effort, and logisitics involved with the sport is what changed our friendship status from being good friends to being everyday friends.

Julie and I are so different - she's Vietnamese, she grew up here in LA, she's sweet and gentle (and none of those things are true for me) - but we're also alike in some deeply important ways.

In this episode, we talk a lot about the school Halloween carnival where we first met, because it kind of became a microcosm for our larger friendship group. We talk about how my online persona is different from my real life personality, and she shares why they moved back to LA from Amsterdam after their year abroad (a decision that taught me so much).