EP 15 We are Church Girls- Part 2: Choosing, Leaving and Handling Conflict

The Iron Women

• Connection Card Question
• Lauren’s experience finding their family’s new church
• The process of finding a home church
• Deanna and Erika’s experience never choosing a church before
• The Word ministry of a church is number one
• Every other aspect of a church and it’s offerings falls back on how the Word is prioritized and taught
• What are the doctrinal beliefs of the church?
• What is the leadership structure and personnel of the church?
• Sit down with the pastor and have an honest conversation about how your family could grow and serve in that church?
• Balancing out the primary, secondary and tertiary beliefs
• Serial dating church
• Consumer mentality
• Pray about it
• Don’t make this decision quickly
• It’s a luxury to get to search out and choose a church
• The “dont’s” vs the “do’s” list
• How to Biblically handle conflict within the church
• Conflict is inevitable, including the church
• Most people do not leave a church biblically or ethically
• Conflict: personal tiffs vs church discipline
• The CLEAR way in scripture to handle conflict is actually really simple, we just don’t want to do it
• If you can’t let it roll and give grace, then you go straight to the person, in the right frame of mind
• Restoration is the goal, not to win or be right
• Conflict with those in leadership
• Go to the offender, ask if it’s a good time now or set up for a better time where both of yall are in the best place mentally, emotionally and spiritually to handle the conflict, do not catch them off guard
• Erika’s rant as pastor’s kid
• Always go straight to the one who has offended you, do not pull in others prior to the person you have an issue with privately
• Legit reasons to leave a church
• Pray about it in length, it is not to be taken lightly
• You leaving the church affects the whole church, not just you
• Personal preferences are not a good Bible reason to leave
• Don’t say you’re finding another church as a cover up for leaving the Church as a whole
• Do not leave with complaints or criticisms, and do not talk poorly about your old church to your new church, even if it is a legit reason
• Go to leadership and talk with them before you leave
• Tell your pastor first, tell him the real reasons your leaving
• Do not leave without reconciliation, don’t leave hurt in your wake
• Leave with grace for that church, its leadership and people
• Change of leadership
• Confirm you are sitting under someone you can trust to lead you and your family Biblically
• Major on the majors, minor on the minors
• What your choice is based on to pick a church, is the reason you will leave the church
• If you base it on how you are being served, you’ll be leaving soon
• Why you choose a church is ultimately why you leave a church
• Leaving should not be a common occurrence, church hopping is real but wrong
• Fun Cup Question

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