49: comparison is (not) the thief of joy

Soul Salon with Ayandastood

“comparison is the thief of joy” they say, a quote originally from Former US President Theodore Roosevelt (random!). but what does the idea that we just "shouldn't" compare ourselves to each other ignore, and in turn, normalize? find out in this soul session and learn:

• How this idea can reproduce individualism
• How we are made to glorify our own alienation
• What another way of seeing comparison could be
• How thinkers like Bayo Akomolafe⁠⁠, Gabor Maté, and Byung-Chul Han can help us make sense of all this...

Time stamps:

(02:46): Shame & comparison
(03:49): Individualism

(06:28): Crisis Response (Bayo Akomolafe)
(09:08): The Myth of Normal (Gabor Mate)
(14:25): Atomization & Authenticity (Byung Chul-Hun)
(22:06): Collective path
(25:11): Social structures

(26:42): Comparison as a cultural cold
(33:36): Reimagine social systems
(34:40): Essay: Comparison as Symptom (Me)
(34:54): Thank you for being here

Sources Mentioned:

Philosopher: ⁠Bayo Akomolafe⁠
Podcast: Jung and the World Podcast: One to One with Bayo Akomolafe Book: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté YouTube: Dr. Gabor Maté: The Myth of Normal & The Power of Connection | Wholehearted

Book: The Disappearance of Rituals: A Topology of the Present by Byung-Chul Han Podcast: Philosophize This: Episode #189 ... Everything that connects us is slowly disappearing. - Byung Chul Han pt. 2

Essay: Comparison as Symptom by me on my Substack

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