27 - Make Your Boundaries Work For You

Tricky Existence

Pearl and Jordyn are back this week to give their take on boundaries.
This week your Pearl gives you an update on her aquarium journey and both hosts spend some time talking cats and underwear.
To begin their deep dive, Pearl and Jordyn define boundaries and look at how and why boundaries change. They put an emphasis on boundaries that are dependent on safety and boundaries that can be more fluid. Your hosts discuss finding your autonomy in boundaries when it is necessary to interact with people, things, and systems that do not respect your limits.
Pearl and Jordyn share their personal experiences with maintaining their boundaries and what happens when boundaries are crossed and they get triggered. *content warning* Jordyn gets triggered during this episode, so you can hear how she works through that and explains what exactly activated her acute stress response. They talk shame, manipulations, and self worth in relation to boundaries. Your hosts round this episode out by sharing some tools and being mindful of how much choice and control we have in our lives.
Questions your hosts explore this week:
1. What is your definition of boundaries?
2. What is your assumption behind you setting boundaries for yourself?
3. How does your body respond to setting boundaries?
References in this episode: Unholy by Sam Smith (song); Not Drinking Tonight by Amanda E. White, LPC (book); Fat Albert (2004), How to Say No (worksheet can be found on trickyexistence.com under blog)