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Last summer, something monumental happened. One of Uncuffed's founding producers, Greg Eskridge, came home after more than 30 years in prison. In this episode we’ll bring you back to that emotional day last summer when he walked out of the San Quentin gates, free at last. Our work in prisons is supported by the California Arts Council, the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, independent foundations, and donations from listeners like you. Learn more, sign up for Uncuffed news, and support the program at www.weareuncuffed.org Follow us @WeAreUncuffed on Instagram and Facebook Transcripts are available within a week of the episode coming out at www.kalw.org/podcast/uncuffed…

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132 What’s next in life 33:06

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When do you decide it’s time to do what’s next in life? In this special edition of the podcast, we talk about what’s next with us. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Vincent Van Gogh: “ The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore. “ Whenever we embark on a new course, we never know just what adventure we will have and what lasting effects the journey will have on us. When we ponder what’s next for our lives, it helps to take stock of what we’ve learned from our previous experience so that we move forward with the best things we’ve gained. Leary and Armin announced that this is the final episode of the Reinventure Me podcast . In early 2017, they will be launching a brand new show called the BoldIdea® Podcast . As they look toward “what’s next” for them, they review some show highlights to share what they’ve learned from Reinventure Me. Quotes from the show: “When you try new things, they can bring joys, friends, challenges, and, in many ways, show you what you are able to accomplish and help you rise up…” —Leary “Nothing lasts forever, and it’s not necessarily intended to. […] For me, stopping something is much, much harder than starting something.” —Leary “You start not with the big idea—you start with just taking and embracing the smallest form [of the idea] that gets you there and moves you along.” —Leary “That’s the whole idea of walking by faith, […] it’s taking that first small step. It’s crazy how fast the other steps show up [after that].” —Armin “That one small step [is] a test. […] You then can find out [whether] you have momentum or you have monotony.” —Leary Our main “what’s next in life” lessons from Reinventure Me : Challenge yourself to be a new beginner (episode 6, “ How to be a better beginner “). Understand the importance of minimum effective dose (episode 29, “ Are you frozen in place by linear thinking? “). Ignore the experts about expertise (episode 26, “ Do your many interests hinder your next great beginning? “; episode 120, “ Why being the best isn’t good enough “). Choose vulnerability and authenticity (episode 124, “ The art of vulnerability “). This week’s Challenge Me : While we work toward “what’s next” for us, we don’t want to lose touch with you. Please join the party at boldideapodcast.com where we will notify you when we release the next podcast early next year. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. If you enjoyed the Reinventure Me podcast, please leave us a parting comment on our show notes below and leave a review in iTunes or Stitcher . Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Armin’s favorite episodes: Episode 041, “ How to love the life you live with guest Amanda Carroll .” Episode 064, “ The choice between legend or legacy with guest Dr. Chuck Stecker .” Episode 116 “ Is the best part of your life behind you? (with guest Wes Yoder) .” Episode 126, “ How to be more disciplined .” Episode 124, “ The art of vulnerability .” Leary’s favorite episodes: Episode 039, “ How to create a motivated lifestyle .” Episode 048, “ The one thing guaranteed to hold you back .” Episode 061, “ How to find your persistent resistance .” Episode 099, “ The wound you didn’t want can be the gift the world needs .” Episode 102, “ The self-talk survival guide .”…

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131 How do you define success? 34:49

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How you engage what’s next in life has a lot to do with how you answer this question: How do you define success? Different people give different answers, but the most important answer, for your life, is yours! This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Ken Gire: “You are a success if, at the end of your life, the people who knew you the best are the ones who respect you the most. “ Whether we evaluate what success is by the media’s, our friends’, or even the dictionary’s definition, we often see that we tie money in with being successful. But is it the money that makes us truly happy? Or just the options it gives us? Many Americans would say that money = success, yet 67 percent of the population doesn’t meet the dollar threshold they say points to success. Does that mean most of us are destined to feel unsuccessful? Take a look at other factors. Look at your marriage, your children, your spiritual walk, your health, your money management skills—does anything in those areas make you feel successful? Quotes from the show: “People are so unique and so different. […] There’s a strong possibility that one person might define success very different from the next.” —Armin “That’s almost an equation we have in America. That success equals material wealth.” —Leary “We allow society, people, or whatever to define success for us, and we accept that. […] I’ve allowed society to tell me what I need to have and what I need to show for me to accept myself as successful because I have to be able to see it in their eyes, that they think I’m successful.” —Armin “Contentment is being satisfied with what you have. Being able to make the range of choices within that scope and saying, ‘I feel pretty good about my range of agency within the constraints that I have. And I’m managing that pretty well.’ That’s happiness. That’s contentment.” —Leary “Envy is internal bankruptcy.” —Leary “What would life look like for you to have that feeling of success?” —Armin “Success is in how well you keep doing the things that are important to you, how well you keep getting better at what you need to get better at.” —Leary “When you are able to impart something truly authentic to someone else, […] that is a measure of success.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Our challenge comes in two parts. First, process what success means by taking the time to define it for yourself. What in your life makes you feel successful? Second, involve your spouse (or the closest person to you, whom you don’t need to impress) and revise. Get the other person’s input on where you are successful already and gain some accountability for areas you can be successful in the future. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Henri J. M. Nouwen’s book, Bread for the Journey .…

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130 What are you saving for later? 30:48

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You’ve got dreams. You’ve got ideas. Lots of things you want to do. We’re doing a little spring cleaning by asking, “What are you saving for later?” This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Henry Ford: “You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do. “ Our minds get cluttered with ideas that we decide to save for later. We save them because we are waiting to process them more or to be personally ready for them or to dedicate specific time to them. If your mind is full of these shelved ideas, it’s time to take inventory and pitch the things that are pipe dreams. Clear the clutter so you can focus on the things you really want to do. Clearing mind clutter works the same way as clearing garage clutter. Take each idea and decide whether to trash it, donate it, or find a home for it. The relief from this process will amaze you! Quotes from the show: “You can’t wait for later to do [some things]. You need to do it now.” —Armin “We are doing our [necessary] thing today, and the thing that we want to do, we’ll push that off for [later]. Some might say it’s a deferred life. ‘We’ll get on with life later. Right now, we have to do our obligations.'” —Leary “Your [very] life could depend on how well you purposely plan your life. Maybe even ask [yourself] the simple question, ‘What is the purpose to my life?'” —Armin “I don’t want to cut down my ideas. […] But, at the same time, I can feel almost compelled […] to act on all of them. If I don’t act [on my ideas], […] I start feeling disappointed with myself when I’m not getting all the stuff that I really want to be working on done.” —Leary “Your mind already knows all this stuff. You can’t hide it from yourself. You’re already doing this internally. Putting it into a list quiets you down.” —Leary “Ask yourself what you can do now. What is the small step you can take now? […] If you can’t take an action step on [it] now, you may still have to do more spring cleaning.” —Leary “I wonder how many of us would be considered hoarders if we could actually see the number of thoughts inside […] our mental garage.” —Armin “If you are shelving [something on your heart] for later because you disqualified yourself, you are capable, you can do it, and you don’t have to save it for later.” —Armin This week’s Challenge Me : Take ten minutes and write down the things you are saving for later. Get that inventory going. Don’t save this challenge for later! Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 070, “ How to Beat Procrastination .”…

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129 How to change your critical life assumptions 33:23

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Every decision you make has assumptions behind it. Knowing how to identify and change your critical life assumptions positively affects your behavior and your decisions. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Isaac Asimov: “ Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in. “ As we take note of how life works and what patterns our lives seem to take on, we develop our critical life assumptions—how we see the world and our place in it. Four areas of our lives that we usually make these assumptions about are our vocational abilities, relational qualities, spiritual value, and physical limitations. Because our critical life assumptions can take us captive, we need to evaluate them periodically and make sure they line up with truth. Quotes from the show: “We make assumptions, and they may not be right. And good business leaders always test their assumptions because […] they are trying to […] build value. Now take that same concept and apply it to our lives. The life assumptions that we have are largely built around value.” —Leary “Your experiences […] dictate your reality.” —Armin “Hurt people hurt people. Critical life assumptions that are unhealthy often come from where our hurt is.” —Leary “Unhealthy critical life assumptions keep us captive, and we need to know that we make decisions, even subconsciously, based on those we have.” —Leary “You don’t necessarily know which [critical life assumptions] are dominant [at any particular time].” —Leary “The whole point about critical life assumption[s] is that they largely stay hidden. They are a paradigm, and we accept [them] unchallenged. You have to step back and say ‘What assumptions are driving my life right now?’ It is a willingness to ask some tough questions because these critical life assumptions affect our behavior. We’ll see them in what we do and want to do. We’ll see it in what we do and don’t want to do.” —Leary “We’ve become a culture [with so much information available that] we have allowed it to misinform us and […] make critical life assumptions about wide variety of people […], and we just generalize them. Whether it’s true or false, we accept them as true.” —Armin “Part of my role here is to take it captive because of what Christ has done. That’s the obedience of Christ—He died on the cross for me to show He loves me. So my response to that love that He gave me is to change the way I think. If I am going to worship and give gratitude back for what what God has done for me (Christ’s obedience), my act of worship is, in fact, to change how I think and to take every thought captive.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Schedule a time to reflect on your critical life assumptions and rewrite any unhealthy ones. It’s not that difficult to do, but it does require an intentionality to sit down and do it. Once you are aware of your critical life assumptions, you can work on them appropriately. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 102, “ Self-Talk Survival Guide .”…

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128 What introverts need to know about extroverts 32:38

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert? If you’re an introvert, this is your survival guide to living and working with and understanding extroverts. Yes, we are talking, but we are also listening! This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Paula Poundstone: “ We need a 12-step group for compulsive talkers. They could call it On Anon Anon. “ Don’t write off an extrovert as an attention-seeker. While it may seem to an introvert that extroverts are an inch deep and a mile wide, extroverts easily have a handle on a group and its dynamic. Once they have talked their thoughts through, their information and perspective is valuable. Quotes from the show: “It’s not about how sociable you are. It’s really, functionally, about how you get your energy.” —Leary “Extroversion itself doesn’t mean you’re not self-aware. However, it does mean [you] get [your] cues […] for how [you’re] doing from other people.” —Leary “When we have a choice […] of spending time with others or spending time diving into something, we will more likely choose time with others because that’s more fun, more spontaneous—that’s where the party is.” —Leary “If extroverts actually want to be good listener[s], they are. […] Extroverts […] are really good at pulling something out of someone. As much as you might think […] they are talking too much, they are actually asking a lot of good questions.” —Armin “Extroverts are naturally good at making rounds, meeting as many people as possible, shaking as many hands, and kissing as many babies. […] They are going to have a deeper understanding of the group, […] of all the people there. That ability to […] talk to as many people as possible brings them more perspective and more understanding than the introvert’s [talk with one person].” —Armin “Many times, you can tell when extrovert[s] [are] around because the noise volume [goes] up. […] They’re finding their energy in being with people. […] The energy in the room is shifting from a deep conversation to now this personality that is lighting up because they’re energetic, and people’s attention is drawn to that. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re seeking it. It’s how they are wired, and attention goes that way. It doesn’t necessarily mean they need it.” —Leary “Don’t respond to [the extrovert’s] first version of any idea they give you. They are extroverting.” —Armin “An introvert wouldn’t bring it up until they processed it. […] Extroverts are going to put a lot of stuff out there that is not yet fully baked. In fact, it’s probably not even partially baked. In fact, the oven may not even be warmed up yet. They don’t even know where the oven is.” —Leary “It’s not the extrovert’s job in a relationship to make you communicate, if you are an introvert.” —Armin Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 026 , “Do your many interests hinder your next great beginning?” David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates’ book, Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types . Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking . Marti Olsen Laney’s book, The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World .…

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127 What extroverts need to know about introverts 32:03

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert? If you’re an extrovert, this is your survival guide to living and working with and understanding introverts. This week, we discuss ways to have better interactions with introverts. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Soren Kierkegaard: “People understand me so poorly that they don’t even understand my complaint about them not understanding me. “ Everyone has some measure of extroversion and/or introversion (or even both). We tend to view others in comparison to where on the extroversion/introversion continuum we ourselves fall. Extroverts have to understand that introverts aren’t what the myths describe them as. Instead, introverts have their own strengths that stand out once they have quiet time to think and process and prepare. Quotes from the show: “An extrovert is someone who is energized by people or social settings, and an introvert is someone who is energized or recharged by solitude.” —Armin “Sociologically, we really reinforce extroverted behavior and so introverts have grown up learning how to be extrovert-like in order to fit in.” —Leary “Even though [being left alone is] where they recharge, it’s not their preference to be lonesome, […] isolated, and not have people in their lives. They like to have six or [fewer] friends, and they like to have really deep relationships with them. […] They still want to engage with one other person they can ‘introvert’ with.” —Armin “When you do forge a relationship with an introvert, it usually does have some meaning because they don’t need a lot of people in their lives. That taxes their energy.” —Leary “[Being alone is] where [the introvert’s] creativity comes alive, that’s their inspiration. […] It’s not just their escape from people—it’s their way of dreaming and […] of creating vision […] and coming up with new ideas. […] It’s not to get away from people, but it’s to enter into something. It’s inspirational for them.” —Armin “If you want ideas from [introverts], […] give them time. They need time to think about it, and they need time to think about it on their own. […] Once they’re in a group setting, [they get] all [the group’s] ideas into their head where it makes it almost impossible for them to come up with their own thing.” —Armin “One of the biggest [helps] is to find a way for them to communicate to you that they’ve had enough [socially]. […] I need [my wife] to […] have a cue when she’s had enough extroversion, and [I need to] respect that.” —Leary If you work with an introvert or want to develop a relationship with an introvert, go deep water fishing, not fly fishing, because introverts are like the ocean. You have to ask deeper questions. Ask, “What have you been pondering this week?” and focus on them while they answer. —Leary Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Leary’s blog, “ What I learned about leadership from an introvert .” Keirsey & Bates, Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types . Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking . Marti Olsen Laney, The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World . Liz Wiseman, Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter .…

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126 How to be more disciplined 34:03

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It’s undeniably good, but oh-so-hard to do—or even want to do. It’s self-discipline. In this week’s episode, we will discuss what discipline is and is not as well as give some basic thoughts about how to develop discipline as a skill. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Vincent Van Gogh: “ Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together. “ Discipline keeps you going toward your goals. We have to get past the negative associations we have with discipline in order to find the freedom it brings. In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss why we struggle with self-discipline and then provide some clear steps to develop more discipline in our lives. Quotes from the show: “Most of the mistakes we make in our life […] are made […] on impulse.” —Leary “Once I started seeing discipline as an enabler to the things that I want, then it became a tool rather than an overlord. […] The problem [had been that] I was seeing […] self-discipline as taking something away from me rather than […] giving something to me.” —Leary “There seems to be a process. 1. You have to know why— your greater, deeper why— as to why you want to do this, and 2. […] you have to have a tangible goal.” —Armin “You literally could be the person [who] breaks the chain and causes a tremendous contribution to the world based on what you choose to do today.” —Leary “With so many distractions, it is hard to stay disciplined because you’re always just like a gerbil on a wheel, jumping from one thing to the next.” —Leary “Structure is the way in which you put something together that you’re going to be disciplined about. […] The discipline is […] staying with it […] and getting closer to what [you] want to do.” —Leary “You get better at discipline all the time. […] When we feel out of control and not disciplined in every area, we almost think [we] need […] a whole do-over. […] We say ‘I need to get more disciplined.’ […] Just pick one thing that you [will] develop a habit around.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Pick an area of your life that you want to be more disciplined. Choose something small and manageable. Then, decide a minimum non-negotiable starting point and just do it . Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 21 : How to create habits for your next great beginning Episode 70 : How to beat procrastination The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains , Nicholas Carr…

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125 The 5 questions every audience is asking 32:30

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Your ideas deserve a great audience. And your audience is asking five things of you. You won’t get your message across unless you provide answers to these five basic questions. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Mark Twain: “ It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech. “ The five things audiences ask of presenters are reasonable. The audience wants to see that your information is valuable, credible, relevant, beneficial, and actionable. All five work together for the audience to come away with the message you intend. In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss the following five questions: Why should I listen? What’s your role in this? (Are you a guide, a guru, or a greenie?) What you have in common with me? (Are you relatable?) What’s the benefit to me? What are you asking me to do? Quotes from the show: “We’re not going to talk about technique, but how you need to think about and prepare for and [give] yourself a mental game plan [for public speaking].” —Leary “We often spend a lot of time […] thinking about what we want to say, but we don’t necessarily think about where the audience is coming from.” —Leary “Worry less about the technique. Worry more about what you’re trying to accomplish.” —Leary “The challenge is that we need to show not only why they should listen, establishing that up front, but that ought to be a recurrent theme in what your message is about. […] These are not sequential, […] this is what your whole presentation needs to continually answer ‘Why should I still be listening?'” —Leary “Be honest. Be you. Be authentic. And don’t try to be something you are not. […] Something I’ve seen […] is someone trying to act like they are an expert when they are not. […] Unless they come across as a guru, [they think] people won’t listen.” —Armin “We have been talking about this level of relatability between me the audience and you the speaker. That honesty, that vulnerability […] is really engaging for [many] because you can set yourself up as the expert, but a lot of people can’t relate to you [though] they still want to learn from you.” —Armin “If you want to share something with me, I want to […] know that we have some area of commonality, some way in which I can relate to you that then becomes the vehicle that your passion transfers over to mine.” —Leary “Getting people to do something is much easier when you ask them. […] Putting the question out there in a very clear way gives them the opportunity to say, ‘Yeah, I can do that’ or ‘No, I won’t,’ but at least you put it out there.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Before your next presentation, take fifteen minutes to write out your answers to the five questions. Keep those answers in mind while you present to maximize your rapport with your audience. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 124, The art of vulnerability . Andy Stanley, Communicating for a Change .…

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124 The art of vulnerability 36:37

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It’s true. We are all vulnerable. But there is an art to being vulnerable with others. In this podcast episode, we talk about the art of vulnerability. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Elihu (as quoted in Job 33:6): “I am just like you before God; I too have been taken from clay. “ Authentic vulnerability connects us with one another as we share our weaknesses, intending to provide empathy and help. In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss what we risk when we are vulnerable, why vulnerability is important, why we choose not to be vulnerable, and how to tell whether a situation is appropriate for vulnerability. Quotes from the show: “We all have our vulnerabilities. We all have our soft spots. We all have things within us that are broken. And…vulnerability is really an admission of that, an acceptance of that.” —Leary “Vulnerability comes when you…say something about your brokenness or mistake or some [personal] flaw, but there’s a risk in doing it. You risk more when you say it.” —Leary “Vulnerability occurs when we have no good answer to the question, ‘Why?'” —Leary “I don’t think you can have vulnerability and not have empathy come as a consequence of it. The big benefit of vulnerability is the empathy it creates. When you have empathy, [its] outgrowth…is trust.” —Leary “[People] willing to put themselves out first in terms of being vulnerable, more often than not,…[become] the catalyst to [create] a culture of honesty [and] of vulnerability where people actually open up. It becomes a culture that almost sucks people into it.” —Armin “Vulnerability is the ultimate way to connect, to lead, to speak.” —Armin “[The Jews and disciples] all got it wrong about who [ Jesus ] was. Who are we to think that we can control the narrative well enough that everyone will get it right about us ? That’s what allows for true vulnerability—the recognition that everyone is going to get it wrong anyway so you might as well be who you are.” —Leary “Vulnerability should come from a shared sense of loss, when there is something that someone else will gain by your being vulnerable. Otherwise, you end up being that person no one wants to hang around because they are high maintenance, they are always needy and telling you something about themselves that is broken [or]defective, and you get the sense that they’re inviting you to fix it.” —Leary “The most common mistake with vulnerability is not going first. [It is also a mistake to share] without regard for someone else [or] sharing information that should be private.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Go out and be vulnerable. There is an opportunity this week to take a risk and open up something that’s going on with you with another person. Start with your family, your spouse or parent or sibling. Disclose something that you aren’t looking for a solution for and that will help the other person. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 114, “ How to Regain Trust .” Brené Brown’s book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead . Dancing guy video . The movie, Finding Forester .…

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123 A new way to look at your strengths (with guest John Warder) 31:57

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Do you know your StrengthFinder’s strengths? In this episode, we speak with John Warder about a new way to look at your strengths. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Steve Jobs: “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do .” John Warder, the original voice of the Reinventure Me podcast, joins us for a conversation about strengths and suggests a new way that we can look at them. John is the Principal coach and trainer for the Top Ten Talents Group, has been a StrengthsFinder coach, personal trainer, and self-proclaimed “assessment junkie” for 30 years, has given thousands of keynote speeches and training sessions to professional groups on staff and career development—including every MLB team and dozens of NFL teams. And, to cap it off, John is a triathaloner—he’s participated in 25 triathlons! Familiar with StrengthsFinder? Know your top five strengths? John suggests we look at our strengths in a new way by integrating our StrengthsFinder results with another approach, the Color Profile. Developed by CoreClarity, the Color Profile assessment organizes top StrengthsFinder strengths into a “color chart” or “color dashboard”—four color-coded quadrants labeled “relating,” “influencing,” “thinking,” and “achieving”—and identifies the two colors or quadrants that are strongest. Color profiles add value to the StrengthsFinder approach by highlighting a person’s strength quadrant and his or her strength personality based on the person’s top five StrengthsFinder results. Key quotes from the show: “The measurement of talent is not there, nor is the measurement of the increments between the talents. What I like to call this is your top five preferences. If you have to choose something, you said you prefer a strategic talent area.” —John Warder “One of the best questions to ask in an interview is, ‘Leary, describe to me an accomplishment that you did that you felt you did really well and you had a sense of enjoyment in it.’ As the person describes it, they would use descriptive verbs and nouns, and I would get a sense of what this person prefers to do.” —John Warder This week’s Challenge Me : If you’ve taken StrengthsFinder and know your top five strengths, email them to John and he will send you a personalized color chart. If you haven’t taken StrengthsFinder, do that first, then send your top five results to John. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: John’s website: TopTenTalents.com . John’s email: john@toptentalents.com Gallup Strengths Center website: GallupStrengthsCenter.com . StrengthsFinder 2.0 . CoreClarity’s website: CoreClarity.net .…

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122 How to move beyond small talk 36:39

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Whether in life or business, how you go deeper in conversation can be the difference between a satisfying relationship or one that is just tolerated. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond small talk. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Ralph Waldo Emerson: “It is not the length of life, but the depth .” Depth of conversation is important. It builds rapport and shared experiences, and provides support during life transitions. In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about the two errors of conversational depth, the value of small talk, and why it’s hard to move beyond small talk. They offer strategies to help us connect with others by diving into deeper conversations. Quotes from the show: “[Small talk] is the basic way we make connection and we can’t dismiss that. We live in a culture and society that is predominately small talk. It being a form of connection is one thing, but it being the form of conversation is another thing—that’s what we do and we just stay there.” —Armin “If you want to go deeper in relationship, vulnerability is a requirement of that, [as is] the ability to ask good questions.” —Leary “We’re stuck in this mindset of canned replies. If someone asks a question, you already know the response to it before you th[ink] about it because you think that’s the way you’re supposed to respond. I think one of the greatest things we could ever do is take those canned responses out of our minds and think about something maybe completely weird to say in response—be bold.” —Armin “Say something that opens up the conversation rather than ending it with an exclamation point.” —Armin “When you have an open question given to you by somebody else, take that as an [opportunity] to step through the door, being a little bit vulnerable to see where it goes. If they take it up and they carry it further, then you know you have an active, engaged partner [who] wants to have a deeper conversation.” —Leary “But if you’re on the asking questions side, the key here is to enter into it with a sense of trying to gain their opinion about something and to ask them a question that leads them along in an area of mutual interest or an area you know they have an interest in.” —Leary “Rather than having it be right or wrong, or your opinion, or being understood, what if your goal—even if their opinion is offensive and completely different—what if your goal was to learn more ?” —Armin “What if your goal is to understand just their perspective? It moves you into relationship with somebody where the purpose is for you to demonstrate empathy. Even if you don’t agree with them, you’re at least willing to explore what they believe.” —Leary “Questions are inviting. They create the opportunity to explore.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : The next time you find yourself tempted to respond with small talk, try taking the conversation deeper instead by asking good, creative questions (covering how they think and feel , and what they’re doing ) and by being vulnerable. Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Mark Goulston’s book, Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone . Episode 5, “ How change affects identity .”…

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121 How to do the next right thing (with guest Roger Thompson) 29:56

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When you’re confused and confounded, and unsure what to do, just do the next right thing. Start by joining us for this episode. We talk with Roger Thompson, author of the new book, Do the Next Right Thing. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from 2 Peter 1:3: “ His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness.” For 23 years, Roger Thompson led a dynamic, growing, and complex church in the Twin Cities. Six years ago, he felt prompted to do the next right thing and transition out of that role as Senior Pastor to write the book, Do the Next Right Thing: Eight Strong Handholds for Every Man . In this episode of Reinventure Me, Leary talks with Roger Thompson about what exactly it means to just do the next right thing. Quotes from the show: “Let’s determine what the next right thing is. Because if you do the next right thing, and then the next right thing…. It’s amazing to me how the horizon opens up.” —Roger Thompson “Is there a phone call you need to make today that you could go and do? Well, then go do that. Is there a person you need to meet with? Is there something you need to do at the bank? Is there a confession you need to make to somebody that you’ve hurt? Is there a conflict that’s alive in your life that you need to move toward restoration? Well, let’s do the next right thing and see how God opens up opportunity. Let’s not try to fix the whole snarled ball of twine all at once. We don’t have the wisdom for that.” —Roger Thompson “A lot of people get stuck because they feel like they need the whole road map.” —Leary “If I do the next right thing according to God’s prompting, His Word, and wisdom, and then tomorrow I do the next right thing after that, and the next right thing after that, I think it’s another way of saying, this is how you walk in the Spirit of God.” —Roger Thompson “If you know that you have everything that you need, then you can make the decision that you need to make.” —Leary “I define endurance as doing something very, very hard. It takes a lot of endurance and energy, but you know where the finish line is. I define perseverance as something that demands just as much energy, but you don’t know where the finish line is.” —Roger Thompson “The key thing there isn’t so much about outcomes; it’s more about attitude.” —Roger Thompson “Perseverance is a biblical virtue. We so often feel defective if we feel like, ‘Hey, I’ve prayed and God hasn’t gotten me out of this, what’s wrong with me? He hasn’t sent me the answer, what’s wrong with me?'” —Roger Thompson “Many of us are looking for a some kind of magic pill when God is saying, ‘I haven’t answered yet, but you still have an option, and that is to persevere. Wake up every morning and do your preparations, take care of the things you need to do. But remember I’m with you and have given you all the things you need.'” —Roger Thompson “The issue is more what are you becoming in the crisis more than how you get out of it.” —Roger Thompson “Just take a small step, leaning into the challenges that you have. Do what you can. Trust God for the rest and see where that takes you.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Think about something that you have in your life that is complex—it might be your health, employment, spouse, son or daughter, or extended family member. Ask, ‘What’s the next right thing I can do in that context?’ Is there a phone call that can be made? An environment you can help set? A principle you can teach? Tough love you need to give? Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Roger Thompson’s book, Do the Next Right Thing: Eight Strong Handholds for Every Man . Episode 25, “ When it’s your turn to move on as a leader (with guest Roger Thompson) .”…

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120 Why being the best isn’t good enough 33:50

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The race to the top of the heap will never do. We talk about why being the best isn’t good enough on this edition of Reinventure Me. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from a Garmin ad: “Beat Yesterday. “ In this episode, Leary and Armin propose that trying to be the best isn’t good enough—that it’s actually detrimental. That’s because the idea of “best”: Is subjective. Is relative. Builds resentment. Is not sustainable. They suggest a better alternative: be better. And they offer tips on how to do exactly that. Quotes from the show: “When we are looking to get recognized for our performance rather than living out of our mastery, we are living from a fixed mindset rather than a growth mindset.” —Leary “When we focus on other people’s grade—and that’s often subjective—we’re gonna lose motivation because really all we’re doing is seeking validation. And when we don’t get validation, what we’re trying to get at is diminished.” —Leary “Instead of winning the respect of other people, why not maintain your own self-respect and continue to relish the respect that you have with the family.” —Leary “You can’t really truly be respected for who you are unless you love yourself first.” —Armin “And you can’t even really love yourself without first understanding that God loves you.” —Leary “There’s only one Best who has lived forever.” —Leary “When you taste the possibility of being first and you’re not, you feel like you lost something that you rightfully should have had. And when you’re third, you don’t feel that way—[you’re just glad to be] on the platform!” —Leary “Forget best. Be better.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Reflect on whether there are areas in your life you’re looking for a grade from someone else. Whose validation is important to you? Why? Comments? Questions? Stories from your own life? Share them with us in the comments below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.’s book, Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals . Leary’s review of Succeed . Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset . Leary Gates’ review of Mindset . Episode 4, “ How your mindset affects your next great beginning .”…

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119 How to have great expectations of ourselves 31:20

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In our last episode, we talked about having great expectations of others. Now we turn the tables on ourselves. We talk about self-expectations in this episode of Reinventure Me. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Psalm 5:3: “In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation. “ In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about self-expectation, how it affects us, and how to know if we have great self-expectations. They suggest that the best way to determine the health of our self-expectations is to ask the following core questions: What things didn’t go as I had planned or hoped? What was I able to control? Am I able to look at this as a learner? Does this failure cause me to increase my efforts to make up lost ground? Does the goal remain desirable independent of my self-identity or past performance? How do I honestly judge my ability to achieve the goals I set for myself? What’s my internal dialogue like when I create a goal? What do I say to myself when I don’t achieve it? The key question? What’s the right level of self-expectation to have? Leary and Armin offer that it’s just enough expectation to give us slightly more losses than wins. Too many losses and we don’t trust ourselves; too few and we become complacent or arrogant—and less grateful. Slightly more losses than wins keeps us humble and also motivated. Quotes from the show: “There’s no one in your life [who] breaks more of your expectations than you . So, on the scale, you should probably put your trust in others before yourself.” —Armin “If we’re not careful with that ANT—that Automatic, Negative Thought—it’s gonna eat away at the wood fabric of our own building, as well, to use that metaphor, and will leave us unhappy.” —Leary “Expectations are related to control or trust.” —Leary “It’s the difference between saying ‘I’m no good at this’ vs. ‘I’m learning to get better at this.'” —Leary “What ends up happening, when we set those expectations for ourselves, is that emotions get in the way—we color our view of ourselves based on our perceptions and our emotions about what has happened to us in the past.” —Leary “If you want to achieve a goal, you have to actually write a plan—because when you write a plan it gets it out of this emotional area [so] you can see there’s a way of actually doing it.” —Leary “The only day or time you become a failure is when you accept that you are [one].” —Armin “The very best definition of success is: when those who know you the best respect you the most.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Score yourself on a scale from 1-10: How happy are you with yourself? Then, consider: what would it take to be one point more satisfied? Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve pursued having great self-expectations? Share them in the comments section below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 114, “ How to regain trust .” Episode 118, “ How to have great expectations of others .” Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset . Leary Gates’ review of Mindset . Episode 113, “ How to grow your abundance mindset .” Episode 4, “ How your mindset affects your next great beginning .” Episode 112, “ Can drive and contentment coexist? “…

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118 How to have great expectations of others 32:57

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Anything worth pursuing will involve others. And, when we do involve them, we form expectations—some of them not so great. This episode discusses how to have great expectations of others. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Leo Tolstoy: “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. “ In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about expectations, conflict, and empathy. They share that what we expect of others is shaped by several things, including: Our circumstances. Assumed values. Assumed skills. Our inner narrative. They suggest that the best way to determine the health of our expectations is to look at the relationships that disappoint us most and ask the following core questions: In what way am I disappointed? What did he/she do or fail to do that created the disappointment? How has that disappointment affected the way I deal with that person? Is it different than how I would treat a stranger? What would it take to earn back my trust? If I were in there shoes, what would I have to do to restore the relationship? Have I communicated that to the person? If not, why not? Would I want to know if the tables were turned? Quotes from the show: “We don’t often ask ourselves, ‘What is the proper degree of expectation that I should have with another party?’ and ‘How do we adjust that?'” —Leary “The key to having healthy expectations of others is this concept that we’ve talked about called grace.” —Leary “Grace fills the gap between the expectations we have of someone and their performance.” —Leary “When we can trust in something, we should have high expectations of it.” —Leary “We assume that other people have the same skills [as us] or that they should.” —Leary “The proper expectation to set with someone is in keeping with what you have observed of their skills and accounting for the level of emotional maturity, relational maturity, [and] vocational maturity in the area you’re expecting them to be strong in.” —Leary “What we’re trying to do through gossip is crowdsource our anger.” —Leary “We set ourselves up as the hero of our own narrative and then we evaluate others in that light—’How important are they in allowing us to achieve our herodom?’ If they aren’t important to us achieving our herodom, then we might just be dismissive of them and not spend time with them. But if they are important to us and they let us down, it really does affect how we then deal with the expectations we have with them.” —Leary “What says to each of us that we’re valued and important is when other people confirm for us the thing we want them to confirm without us having to tell them.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Great Expectations challenge: Ask the core questions about the relationships that have disappointed you and decide what action you will take. Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve pursued having great expectations of others? Share them in the comments section below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Episode 114, “ How to regain trust .” David S. Rose’s book, The Startup Checklist: 25 Steps to a Scalable, High-Growth Business .…

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117 The busy guy’s guide to being a better dad (with guest Jay Payleitner) 33:52

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Well, Father’s Day is coming up and we’ve got the busy guy’s guide to being a better dad. In this episode, we talk with best-selling author and fatherhood advocate Jay Payleitner. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Psalm 127:3–4: “ Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them!” In this episode, Leary and Armin talk with Jay Payleitner about his life, his reinventions, his journey to becoming a father advocate, and some of the challenges he frequently hears from other dads. Jay is one of the top freelance producers for Christian radio, having produced shows like Josh McDowell Radio, Today’s Father, Jesus Freaks Radio, and Project Angel Tree with Chuck Colson. He is the author of more than 20 books, including bestselling 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad , What If God Wrote Your Bucket List? and 52 Ways to Connect as a Couple . Jay is a nationally-known speaker for Iron Sharpens Iron and the National Center for Fathering. Jay and his wife Rita have five kids and four grandkids and have loved on 10 foster babies. One of Jay’s suggestions for being a better dad? Make small, intentional memories with your kids—turn what would otherwise be ordinary and mundane moments into a magical ones. He shares a vivid example and several other valuable suggestions and reminders. Quotes from the show: “Throw yourself into [fathering].” —Jay “If you try to balance work and family—impossible. But if you give yourself 100% to all of those, looking for the small moments, it’s the great verse from Psalm 127: ‘Children are a burden from the Lord.’ No! ‘Children are a gift from the Lord’—they are a reward from Him.” —Jay “Are your kids—when they first see you and say goodbye to you—are they drawn to you or walking away from you ?” —Jay “The best you can do there is to say, ‘What am I doing to maintain the bridge and maintain the positive conversation [with my teenagers]?'” —Leary “Your best resource is hanging out with your wife and asking, ‘Hey, how am I doing as a dad?'” —Jay “Our job as dads is to open doors for our kids—let them try stuff—[…]they’ll discover things about themselves. […]And don’t stress out if they don’t try stuff.” —Jay “Follow your instincts. What do you want to do? That kid is crying? […] You pick up the crying baby. If that baby is crying, [he/she] is crying for a reason.” —Jay “If lack of skin-to-skin contact leads to Failure to Thrive [Syndrome], then […] lots of skin-to-skin contact leads to thriving.” —Jay “[Like an archer shooting an arrow,] pull them close to your heart, then you let them go.” —Jay This week’s Challenge Me : Kiss your wife in the kitchen. Say something good about your children’s mom in front of your child(ren). Comments or questions for Jay, Leary, or Armin? Be sure to share them in the comments section below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Jay Payleitner’s website . Jay Payleitner’s book, 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad . Jay Payleitner’s book, What If God Wrote Your Bucket List? Jay Payleitner’s book, 52 Ways to Connect as a Couple . Jay Payleitner’s book, The Dad Book . Walter Trobisch’s book, The Misunderstood Man: Why Men Suffer & What Can Be Done About It .…

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116 Is the best part of your life behind you? (with guest Wes Yoder) 36:48

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Is the best part of your life behind you? In this episode, we talk with someone who works with a lot of people who ask themselves that question: Wes Yoder. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from George MacDonald: “Where a man would make a machine, or a picture, or a book, God makes the man that makes the book, or the picture, or the machine. Would God give us a drama? He makes a Shakespeare. “ In this episode, Leary and Armin talk with Wes Yoder, about his life and the challenges his clients—speakers and authors—often face. Wes is the CEO and Founder of Ambassador Agency Inc., a Christian-based literary agency and speakers bureau, and the author of the book, Bond of Brothers . They talk about life, successes, and what we should remember about the present moment and the future. Quotes from the show: “I started waking up to the reality that what God was choosing for me was far better than anything I ever chose for myself.” —Wes Yoder “We’re afraid of discomfort, afraid of pain, afraid of suffering, afraid of losing.” —Wes Yoder “There’s a slow life transformation that happens every time you go through a testing time or a suffering time. Something in you changes, either for better or for worse.” —Wes Yoder “Or you can learn to forgive those who have hurt you. You can learn to say, ‘In my suffering and in my sorrow, I met the Man of Sorrow who is acquainted with my grief, who—oh by the way—promises to make my joy complete.’ I can live in that space or I can live in a place of bitterness.” —Wes Yoder “As long as my life is not over here, there’s still more to come, […] the best part of life is ahead of me.” —Wes Yoder “I don’t care where you are in life, as long as you are alive, […] this is the spring time of [y]our life—not only because there is eternity ahead, but because the years we have left are meant to be important because we still have them being given to us year after year as gifts from God.” —Wes Yoder “Tomorrow can be incredible.” —Wes Yoder “The question I have for myself literally on a day-[to]-day basis—and for anyone who will actually listen—[… is], ‘God, put into my hands whatever you want there. And take out of my hands anything that is not good for me, isn’t pleasing to you, is just getting in the way. And I don’t care what the results are .'” —Wes Yoder “Ultimately, contentment is connected somehow to knowing that you’ve not missed the purpose of your life.” —Wes Yoder “When you’re really alive, you can look, with a cheshire grin on your face, and say, ‘The best part of my life is this moment here with you.'” —Wes Yoder This week’s Challenge Me : Get a 3×5 card and write down the greatest sorrow of your life and your greatest fear right now. What are three things you would do if you had no fear? Look at what you write down and talk with God about it. Comments or questions for Wes Yoder, Leary, or Armin? Be sure to share them in the comments section below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Wes Yoder’s book, Bond of Brothers . Wes Yoder’s website .…

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115 Your burnout recovery plan 31:53

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Burning out? About to? No worries. This episode is your burnout recovery plan. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Dallas Willard: “Understanding is the basis of care. What you would take care of you must first understand, whether it be a petunia or a nation. “ In this energy-packed episode, Leary and Armin talk about burnout, what it is, its symptoms, questions to ask to learn if you have it, and the difference between burnout and fatigue. They also give us hope that we can recover from the cul-de-sac of burnout. Here’s how: Recognize it. Admit your condition. Accept a long recovery. Burnout doesn’t happen instantly—it won’t fix quickly. Don’t make immediate life decisions. Things feel more charged than they are. Schedule self-care time. Take control of your schedule—set boundaries. Limit the number of changes you make. Any change can absorb mental energy and add stress. Ask for support from a friend. It gives you motivation, provides encouragement, and invites vulnerability. Evaluate the cause of burnout. Really understand what’s causing burnout so you can adapt to avoid it from happening again. Quotes from the show: “The earliest warning sign for me that I’m approaching exhaustion and burnout [is…] when I feel like the people I love the most are encroaching upon me and what I’m trying to do.” —Leary “Burnout is extended, chronic fatigue that gets to this point where you feel like there’s nothing you can do. Your options are limited, you have no real controls over your life.” —Leary “If you are in denial about all of the broken promises you’ve made, then it’s time to admit that, hey, ‘I probably am in burnout right now.’ It’s not like you’re a failure if you’re in burnout. It’s better for you to admit it and work on a proactive recovery plan than for you to take it further and do significant damage to yourself and your life.” —Leary “You don’t make good decisions when you’re fatigued.” —Leary “People who burnout are really good at scheduling their burnouts [by] making sure [their] schedule[s] [are] full. The opposite of that is to schedule self-care time.” —Armin “Occupation—it’s the thing that occupies us. If we don’t set boundaries to it, that thing becomes like a camel in a tent and it takes over. Pretty soon, we have to vacate because our occupation has killed us.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : If you’re in burnout or the early stages of burnout, what one change will you make to your schedule to create a boundary for self-care? Make it specific and actionable so you can apply it today. Comments? Questions? Stories of how you’ve overcome burnout? Share them in the comments section below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: The Mayo Clinic’s burnout question list, as published in their article, “ Job burnout: How to spot it and take action .” Episode 73, “ How to set personal boundaries .” Episode 112, “ Can drive and contentment coexist? “ Episode 24, “ Why now is the best time to start journaling .” Toolbox episode 1, “ How to journal more consistently .”…

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114 How to regain trust 38:04

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Gaining someone’s trust can be hard. Losing it is easy. Regaining it is seemingly impossible. In this episode, we talk about how to regain trust. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from David Horsager: “ The single uniqueness of the greatest leaders and organizations of all time is trust.” In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about why trust is important, what it is made of, how it gets broken, and how we can regain it when it is. Here are the steps they suggest to regain trust: Identify how you broke trust. Acknowledge the damage done and how the other may have felt. Apologize for breaking the trust. Create a plan to regain their trust. Solicit feedback and c heck in along the way. Deliver and ask for the other’s thoughts on what you delivered. They also caution that regaining trust takes time and cannot happen until the other overcomes three doubts: the doubt of sincerity, the doubt of ability, and the doubt of durability. One plan and deliverable will not usually restore trust to where it was, so be prepared to repeat steps 4–6 as many times as needed. Remember, too, that, unfortunately, t here are times when it will be impossible to regain someone’s trust. Quotes from the show: “The trusted leader is the leader [who’s] actually followed. A lack of trust is your biggest expense.” —Armin “If you want a high-performance relationship, it’s gotta be built on trust, too.” —Leary “There’s a fundamental, psychological need for trust and trusted relationships.” —Leary “Trust is comprised of clarity.” —Leary “If you commit, deliver . If you can’t deliver, don’t commit .” —Armin “Trust is one of those things that gets strengthened only through testing. Trust is not a static thing. It’s either growing or eroding. The way it grows is by showing that it’s stable. You almost have to test it in some ways to know that you got the trust there because trust holds up under the test.” —Leary “Trust is broken when someone’s expectation is not met.” —Leary “When we don’t take what we say seriously, we don’t take what we do seriously, and we don’t consider the impact of what we say or do on other people, it’s a recipe for distrust or for broken trust.” —Leary “Until you get through those three doubts, […] the other party will not respond with renewed trust.” —Leary “I don’t think you should apologize until you understand, first of all, what you are clearly apologizing for and how it affected them. If you don’t know those two things, then you can’t form an adequate apology.” —Leary “If you’re creating a plan, the most important question is not ‘ Why?,’ […] it’s ‘ How?’ You can’t ask that question once, you can’t ask that question twice, you need to ask that question three times.” —Armin This week’s Challenge Me : Identify someone whose trust you broke. Identify how you broke trust with him or her, then follow the simple plan suggested in this episode and let us know how it works for you. If you’ve been on the other end as someone hurt by another person not proving trustworthy, do us a favor and, in the comments below, tell us about any stories and principles you think our listeners would find helpful. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: David Horsager’s book, The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line Earl D. Wilson’s book, Restoring the Fallen: A Team Approach to Caring, Confronting & Reconciling…

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113 How to grow your abundance mindset 33:39

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Are you threatened by challenges or invigorated by them? Your answer may determine whether you have an abundance or a poverty mindset. In this episode, we talk about how to cultivate a mindset of abundance. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Winston Churchill: “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.” In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about what an abundance mindset is, how to know if you have one or not, and its benefits. They offer several suggestions on how to grow an abundance mindset: Affirm that what you have is enough. Get with others who will inspire you in your vision and the value of it. Be a cheerleader or a spotlight for someone else. Quotes from the show: “An abundance mindset is a bias, or a choice you might have, to see an opportunity and growth rather than scarcity and loss—especially when confronting challenges.” —Leary “An abundance mindset… is more about seeing yourself as someone who has something valuable to offer to the world.” —Leary “We don’t have an abundant mindset that comes from us. It comes from another source—the source where True Abundance comes from. That’s really what God does: He provides all that we need in order to do the next act of obedience.” —Leary “I have all that I need to do the next thing.” —Leary “An abundance mindset helps us have less stress and anxiety. When we are able to see the world as someplace that has more than enough for [us], we have a way of just letting go of the anxiety of needing to get more.” —Leary “In an abundance mindset, you see competitors as having value. They can validate a market.” —Leary “The risk is always worth it.” —Armin “How often do we shut down other people and relationship with them because we feel threatened by them? All that does—that threat—is just creating stress of us. Get rid of that stress!” —Leary “It’s this win-lose kind of thinking that’s evidence of a poverty mindset.” —Leary “You can’t afford not to [invest in others].” —Armin This week’s Challenge Me : Take on one of the steps Leary and Armin suggest or leave one of your own in the comments below. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: Reinventure Me’s Poverty/Abundance Mindset Assessment . Episode 4, “ How your mindset affects your next great beginning .” Episode 112, “ Can drive and contentment coexist? “ Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset . Leary Gates’ review of Mindset .…

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112 Can drive and contentment coexist? 38:32

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You’ve got drive. Things to do and people to see. Yet, is it possible to possess drive and contentment at the same time? We explore that in this episode. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from the Apostle Paul (Philippians 4:12-13): “ I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” In this episode, Leary and Armin talk about the causes of discontent and suggest we identify it in our own lives by: Asking ourselves, “What is persistently dissatisfying?” and “What am I thinking when I’m dissatisfied?” For each, asking, “Am I happy when the opposite is true?” For each, identifying what could be reframed or what actions could be taken. Leary and Armin also offer three steps that we can take to strengthen contentment: Play our part. Keep in mind that we are a part of something bigger. Inventory our blessings. Increase our awareness of what we’ve already been given. Cultivate our patience. Take the long view. Quotes from the show: “A lot of times, [discontent] comes from a lack of recognition and you want the recognition.” —Armin “Where it goes sideways is when that desire for recognition subtly morphs into a need for validation—when we need other people to say we’re okay or we’ve got it or we’re somebody.” —Leary “The Apostle Paul demonstrates yes, you can have that energy and at the same time be at peace.” —Leary “Never stop asking that question—’What are you going to be when you grow up?’—otherwise you stop listening and you stop asking.” —Leary “[The difference] between someone who is ambitious and driven is: [a driven person is] willing to put it on paper and bring people around them and let the world know, ‘ This is what I’m striving for.’ ” —Armin “[Discontentment] makes everything really big. […] It makes our problems appear larger than they really are and it makes us feel worse than we really are.” —Leary “Contentment is a sense of satisfaction.” —Armin “You have a part to play, but yours isn’t the lead role.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Be honest with yourself: are you more ambitious or driven? If you’re ambitious, ask yourself the hard question: What validation am I seeking from others? If you’re driven and discontent, examine your discontent and take a small step in each area. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below.…

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111 Eight ways you surrender the power of choice 33:01

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You have the power to choose your future. Yet, there are eight ways you surrender that power without even knowing it. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Robert Fritz: “The way people choose reveals where they see the power in a situation residing and how that power is activated and used.” In this episode, Leary and Armin explore the eight ways Robert Fritz says we choose to avoid effective choice. Fritz says we give up our power to choose when we make a choice by: Limitation : choosing only what seems possible or reasonable. Indirectness: choosing the process instead of the result. Elimination: choosing to eliminate all other possibilities so that only one choice remains. Default: choosing not to make a choice, so that whatever results seems to occur without choice. Condition: choosing to impose preconditions on choices. Reaction: choosing in order to overcome a conflict. Consensus: choosing by finding out what everyone else recommends and following the results of that poll. Adverse possession: choosing based on a hazy metaphysical notion about the nature of the universe. Quotes from the show: “If you love something enough, it’ll exist.” —Leary “When we surrender our effective choice—our decision to choose for ourselves—we’ve given up our power. In other words, we’ve given in to something that’s not us . And we might resent it…. but frankly, the choice comes back to us.” —Leary “Recogniz[e] where the power lies—otherwise, we’ll follow the path of least resistance.” —Leary “Unsubscribe from all of those feeds offering to solve your problem…. Sometimes we need to disconnect from all of the things that are process, in order for us to get silent and think about what result are we trying to create.” —Leary “What’s your end-goal? …. What is your aspiration?” —Armin “Simply make a conscious choice.” —Leary paraphrasing Fritz This week’s Challenge Me : Which one of the eight avoidance choices do you deal with most often? What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: The Path of Least Resistance by Robert Fritz The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey…

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RMT015 How to get clarity about a goal 7:20

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Clear goals prompt action. But how do we create that goal clarity? This toolbox episode highlights three simple ways. In this seven-minute toolbox episode, Leary shares how to interrogate our goals to make sure they are the best they can be. He suggests asking three key questions: So that…? So what…? So how…? Take a few minutes to listen to this episode and then ask these questions to get clarity around your own goal. You’ll establish a purpose, identify your points of resistance, and develop a plan to pursue your goal. Then, share your thoughts or questions with us in the comments section below. We always love to hear from our listeners.…

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110 What you need to know before you form a partnership 34:06

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Having partners in your business or to help advance your ideas is great… until it isn’t. Here’s what you need to know before you form a partnership. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Janine Ogg and Jo Foster, two moms who help other moms become entrepreneurs: “ Just one great partnership with the right person can have an incredible impact on your business success.” In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss how partnerships can benefit us and our ventures—if they involve the right people and are set up well. They also talk about how taxing partnerships can become if certain things are overlooked, and share strategies and tools to help avoid those partnership pitfalls. Quotes from the show: “A good reason to bring in a partner [is] to complement your skill set and allow the business to be more successful.” —Leary “One of the biggest mistakes people make is to think that a good friendship translates into a good partnership. But partnerships are very different from any other kind of relationship.” —Armin “You can make friends out of partnerships, but you often lose friends in partnerships.” —Leary “Even if the business is successful, it doesn’t mean that the partnership will be…. You can have a healthy, successful business, but you can lose a lot of your sanity in the process…. A successful lifestyle is contingent upon a healthy partnership, regardless of whether the business is successful.” —Armin “One of the biggest mistakes that is made in partnerships is that early enthusiasm is never codified in a written document. If you start a partnership, you really need to think through it—especially while everyone is in agreement.” —Leary “Do they bring a necessary core competency to this partnership or are they just another you?” —Armin “Are they complementing you? Are they bringing something that I can’t outsource? ….If they don’t bring something that’s core—that you couldn’t just outsource and get, that’s more or less commodity—I think you’d be foolish to enter into a partnership.” —Leary “Bring someone in who is core and central to your business, who will advance your business. If you don’t know who that is yet, then wait.” —Leary This week’s Challenge Me : Have a pre-partnership meeting with your prospective partner. Cover all of the key questions (see below resource) before you get into an official partnership. Do not wait to have this conversation until after money, sacrifice, assumptions, and other commitments have been made. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: “Questions to Evaluate Fit of Prospective Partners” by Armin Assadi.…

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109 How to make fear work in your favor 32:55

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Do not fear fear. Put it to work instead. In this episode, we talk about how to make fear work in your favor. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Ambrose Redmoon: “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.” In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss fear and how it impacts us and our ventures. They suggest four steps we can take to help us live courageously: Write down the fears that come to mind when you contemplate your project or venture. Identify the reverse pointers for those fears. Consider what actions you can take now to support your goals. Think about how you can involve others. Quotes from the show: “Sometimes, courage is really just being willing to get up the next day and start over.” —Leary “Fear is a natural response. And, yet, we can choose how we deal with it when it comes.” —Leary “Fear is really a reverse pointer to something else—to something that’s greater.” —Leary “Fear naturally drives us to self-protection…. Usually, fear is there to prevent something from happening. Often, it prevents action.” —Leary “[Fear forces us to] either sacrifice doing our best work or doing our own work.” —Leary “The key here is to get fear to work for you by understanding what it’s pointing to and understanding your higher purpose.” —Leary “Our greatest regret is always what we [don’t] do.” —Armin “Community sharpens our venture and the choices we make.” —Leary “Community is one of the greatest tools anyone can have for just about anything.” —Armin “It’s really difficult for a lot of people to do because you have to get vulnerable and the issue with vulnerability is the fear of rejection.” —Armin This week’s Challenge Me : What goal do you want to achieve? Write down the fears that you have around that goal and identify what you stand to lose or gain—those higher-order objectives the fears point to. Then, consider what next steps you can take to support that goal. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast episode: “ What it takes to be a writer (with guest Jerry B. Jenkins) ,” Episode 107 of the Reinventure Me podcast “ How to beat procrastination ,” Episode 70 of the Reinventure Me podcast…

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108 So you had a bad day…. 34:21

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So you’ve had a bad day. Yuck. This episode is your survival and revival guide to a bad day. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Soren Kierkegaard: “ Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced .” In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss those bad day blues and how to keep a bad day from getting worse. They suggest taking five steps: Express. Acknowledge what’s happened by talking it out with a good listener; or journal about it. What’s your blocked goal? Lesson. Find what the situation might teach you. Reframe. Identify and reframe your expectations. Protect. Protect your most important relationships from a bad-day spillover. Redeem. Determine what steps you can take to redeem a bad day. Quotes from the show: “A bad day can affect your mindset about every single aspect of life.” —Armin Assadi “Things are going to get a lot worse before they get worse.” —Lily Tomlin “Embrace your bad day as an experience rather than something that is wrong with you.” —Armin Assadi “The key is to understand, ‘What was my blocked goal? What was the thing that I couldn’t control?'” —Leary Gates “It’s important to be prepared to say, ‘If I have a bad day, this is how I’m going to respond.'” —Armin Assadi “When I have a bad day, I like to ask, ‘Will I remember this day a year from now?'” —Leary Gates “No one deserves a good day every day.” —Leary Gates This week’s Challenge Me : If you’re having a bad day, identify what your blocked goal was? How can you reframe it? What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast: The job cleanse: 5 strategies for detoxifying form your former employer , Episode 3 of the Reinventure Me podcast.…

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RMT014 How and why you should manage your LinkedIn settings (with Viveka von Rosen) 11:22

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It’s not sexy, but it’s important. If you want to effectively reach your target audience and avoid over- or under-sharing, you need to manage your LinkedIn settings. Here’s your guide. In this ten-minute toolbox episode, LinkedIn expert Viveka von Rosen shares with Leary why it’s important to manage LinkedIn settings and how to tune-up your profile. She walks through each of the following settings: Turning on/off your news mention broadcasts Turning on/off your profile activity updates Selecting who can see your activity feed Selecting what others see when you’ve viewed their profile Turning on/off How You Rank Selecting who can see your connections Choosing who can follow your updates Managing recommendations Editing your public profile URL Take ten minutes to make sure your LinkedIn profile is working the best it can be for you. Then, share your thoughts or questions with us in the comments section below. We always love to hear from our listeners. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast that you may find helpful: “ LinkedIn Security: Who’s Watching You? ,” Ebook from Viveka mentioned in this podcast. Free for a limited time. “ Why you should use LinkedIn Publisher (with Viveka von Rosen) ,” Toolbox Episode 11, offers insight into how to use Publisher to make your profile stand out from others. “ Cool tools on LinkedIn (with Viveka von Rosen) ,” Toolbox Episode 9, covers the fastest, most effective ways you can build your brand promise—that sense of “know, like, and trust”—using LinkedIn’s cool communication tools. “ How to use recommendations to increase your credibility on LinkedIn (with Viveka von Rosen) ,” Toolbox Episode 6, offers tips on how to go about requesting recommendations on LinkedIn to bolster your credibility. “ How to use media to increase your credibility on LinkedIn (with Viveka von Rosen) ,” Toolbox Episode 2, covers the three things that matter most when using media on your LinkedIn profile and preparing for your next great beginning. “ How to use LinkedIn to supercharge your next transition with Viveka von Rosen ,” Episode 31, provides practical tips, and a few cautions, as you prep your profile and gear up for change. How to Use LinkedIn Publisher to Get More Visibility , an article by Viveka von Rosen, offers insight on the elements of a good post, how to determine publishing frequency, sharing best practices, and more. B2B LinkedIn Launchpad Training Series , Viveka von Rosen’s comprehensive ebook to get you and your business off and running with using LinkedIn for B2B purposes.…

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107 What it takes to be a writer (with guest Jerry B. Jenkins) 38:12

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Do you have a book in you? If so, then this podcast is for you. We’re talking to mega-author Jerry B. Jenkins about what it takes to be a writer. Jerry B. Jenkins is a 21-time New York Times best-selling author, including the mega-hit, Left Behind series. His 187 books have sold more than 70 million copies. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Jerry’s father: “Make your goals intrinsic, not extrinsic. […] Make your goal to be the best writer you can be.” In this episode, Jerry talks with Leary and Armin about what it takes to be a writer. Join us for this conversation and consider how you can incorporate Jerry B. Jenkins’ advice as you approach writing your own book. Quotes from the show: “This isn’t a hobby. It’s not a diversion[…]. Writing is a serious business and it takes a lot of years of training and work to do it right.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “Make sure you’re making three or four times your salary before you think you can go full-time freelance, because all of the expenses now will be yours.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “How do you write a mega-best-seller? Well, you don’t. You don’t sit down to do that. You write from your passions and what you care about.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “I don’t have any control over how something sells, how it will be received. The only thing I have control over is how much of myself I put into it and how disciplined I am. So all I can do is the best I can do and the market takes care of the rest.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “I maintain that fear of inadequacy and a little bit of low self-esteem[…]. Fear’s not a bad motivator. Let’s take whatever you need to keep you from short-cutting the process and short-selling yourself.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “My calling is that I have a message. I wasn’t necessarily called to be a writer. I’m called to spread the word and this is my vehicle to answer that call. So, I’m going to be obedient to that call. Success was never the point. Obedience was the point. Had I never had a book sell over 100,000 copies, I still would have been a success by answering the call and being obedient.” —Jerry B. Jenkins “If you want to be a writer, start with a blog, start with a small publication, start with a newspaper, do magazine work. Learn the craft. Get the quarter-of-a-million clichés out of your system. Learn to be edited. Learn that it’s collegial: every published piece of writing is a duet, not a solo. Learn that back-and-forth. As you become an expert in something […] then start learning the business, making the rounds, going to writers’ conferences, meeting editors and agents. Then it’s time to get involved in a writers’ group and try your hand at that book you want to take a shot at.” —Jerry B. Jenkins This week’s Challenge Me : It’s never too late—or early—to start writing. Don’t let anything stand in your way. If you want to be a writer, the important thing is what you want to say. Learn your craft, hone your skills, and get behind the keyboard. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast: JerryJenkins.com . Jerry B. Jenkin’s book, Left Behind . Jerry Jenkins Writer’s Guild . Eugene H. Peterson’s book, A Long Obedience in the Same Direction .…

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106 Five blind spots that can derail you 35:19

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The decisions you’re about to make for your future are flawed. Relax. We’ll tell you why and what you can do about it in this episode of Reinventure Me. This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Anonymous: “Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions.” In this episode, Leary and Armin discuss blind spots or biases—what they are and why they matter—and highlight five critical biases that can affect how we view the future and take advantage of opportunities. These five biases are: Confirmation bias Recency bias Anchoring bias Availability bias Information bias How did we select these five biases when there are hundreds out there to choose from? (Yes, we think we’re amusing when we use irony.) Listen in to find out, and consider how your own biases are shaping your decisions about your future. Quotes from the show: “Whatever that decision is you might be thinking about, you need to think about how you’re influencing yourself and making your decisions.” —Leary “Just because something is hot right now doesn’t mean it’s going to stay hot. That’s the recency bias you need to look at. The old advice, just to sleep on it, is a big help. It helps you start to see if you change your opinion about something over time.” —Leary “Ask yourself, when you get new information, is there some reason that should invalidate the old assumptions you had and what is the reason for that?” —Leary “To overcome the anchoring bias, then, you have to start looking at the problem from different perspectives and assume that the position … you’re holding is false.” —Leary “When you’re seeking advice from someone, say as little as possible about how you view it—because, otherwise, you anchor them, and then what you get is an echo chamber, because they’re just gonna repeat back to you what you already thought.” —Leary “Just because it’s available and current doesn’t make it the best decision.” —Armin This week’s Challenge Me : Think about how these five blind spots or biases might be influencing a decision you’re contemplating. What do you think of this topic and episode? Share your comments or questions below. Resources mentioned in or related to this podcast: “ 20 cognitive biases that screw up your decisions ,” Business Insider (infographic mentioned in the podcast). Adobe Marketing Cloud ad .…

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RMT013 How to overcome stalling 7:49

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Are you putting off something you want to do? It happens—either when life gets busy or we let busyness become an excuse to stall. If you’re stuck stalling, this toolbox episode is for you. In this toolbox episode, Leary shares techniques from Margaret Lobenstine’s book, The Renaissance Soul , to help you overcome stalling and get started on your dream: Write down negative thoughts. Identify the assumptions underlying each one. Code each thought according to assumption type. Leary elaborates on each of these steps in this brief seven-minute episode. Take a listen and consider giving this technique a try. The beauty of the exercise is that it helps you sort and reframe your thinking, and even gives you an immediate action plan! Share your thoughts—including other strategies you’ve found helpful in overcoming stalling—with us in the comments section below. We always love to hear from our listeners. Resources related to this episode that you might find helpful: Episode 104, “ Are you a renaissance soul? “ Episode 102, “ The self-talk survival guide .” Leary’s review of the book discussed in this episode: “ Recommended Reading: ‘The Renaissance Soul’ by Margaret Lobenstine .” Margaret Lobenstine’s book, The Renaissance Soul: Life Design for People with Too Many Passions to Pick Just One .…

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