Episode 6-For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid with guest Shaunti Feldhahn

Embracing Your Season: Raising Littles and Understanding Teens with Paige Clingenpeel

On this week's episode of Embracing Your Season, host Paige Clingenpeel has a great conversation with author, speaker, and ground-breaking social researcher, Shaunti Feldhahn. As a mother herself, Shaunti understands the value and importance of connecting and understanding our children and teens. She shares about her research in co-authoring the book, For Parents Only, which encourages parents as they navigate the hard world of parenting.

Paige’s Takeaways:

1. Attitudes - They are usually a sign of our kids struggling with a pain point that we get the opportunity to lean into as parents. We can ask the question, “What is going on in the heart of my child?” What we see on the outside is a reflection of what is going on, on the inside.

• Boy’s struggle with the pain point of, “Am I good enough?” They are involved in a lot of performance based activities which can cause this type of tension. Give them a safe place at home to communicate these tensions they are feeling.
• Girl’s struggle with the pain point of, “Am I lovable?” They have the desire to know if they are worth loving. We can help them by incorporating words of affirmations to help them know that they are loved and special.

1. Listen - Listen to them and let them know that thyr are seen and known. Lean into the emotion that our kids share with us. Ignore the problem or conflict, instead lean into how the conflict is affecting them emotionally. Listen, ask how they are feeling, ask if they need help finding a solution. If they aren’t ready to share with you, wait twelve hours for them to process and check back in with them.
2. Love - Our kids want us to know that we are loved and they appreciate us. They might not know how to tell you or show you but they do love you.

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Book - For Parents Only