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How to be Happy, Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing with Dr.Abby Medcalf
Manage episode 403595160 series 2905564
Marni welcomes Dr.Abby Mecalf to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dismantle pre-held beliefs about the secret to a successful relationship. Abby is a psychologist and a relationship maven who also happens to be a podcast host. Throughout this episode, they look into one of the leading causes for the failure of a relationship. And it’s not communication, it’s competition that influences the dynamics within a relationship.
* Why do so many relationships fail?
* How to stop Comparing
* Find common ground
It’s Actually Not Just About Communication [06:42]
We’ve been told over and over again that the main reason relationships fail is bad communication. But there’s another cancer under that. And it's a competition.
This is competition for resources, for time, for money, for things in the family. If you’re in competition with someone, you don’t want them to win.
That Sounds Like a We Problem [12:59]
Instead of viewing an issue as one partner’s problem, look at it as a shared problem. When you do that, you both actively engage in shared problem solving. And rather than blame each other, you manage to actually find a solution that works for both of you.
Everything is a we.
Set Your Boundaries Right [28:12]
Merely expressing a preference is not setting a boundary. A boundary needs to have consequences if it is not respected. When you set a boundary, it doesn’t mean you’re more important than your partner. It just means you’re as important.
‘I feel upset when you talk to me that way.’ That’s your feeling. A Boundary has to have teeth.
Make a Connection:
· 3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download*
· Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training*
· Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life? Book A Call With Us
· Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy *Get your copy Now!*
95 tập
Manage episode 403595160 series 2905564
Marni welcomes Dr.Abby Mecalf to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dismantle pre-held beliefs about the secret to a successful relationship. Abby is a psychologist and a relationship maven who also happens to be a podcast host. Throughout this episode, they look into one of the leading causes for the failure of a relationship. And it’s not communication, it’s competition that influences the dynamics within a relationship.
* Why do so many relationships fail?
* How to stop Comparing
* Find common ground
It’s Actually Not Just About Communication [06:42]
We’ve been told over and over again that the main reason relationships fail is bad communication. But there’s another cancer under that. And it's a competition.
This is competition for resources, for time, for money, for things in the family. If you’re in competition with someone, you don’t want them to win.
That Sounds Like a We Problem [12:59]
Instead of viewing an issue as one partner’s problem, look at it as a shared problem. When you do that, you both actively engage in shared problem solving. And rather than blame each other, you manage to actually find a solution that works for both of you.
Everything is a we.
Set Your Boundaries Right [28:12]
Merely expressing a preference is not setting a boundary. A boundary needs to have consequences if it is not respected. When you set a boundary, it doesn’t mean you’re more important than your partner. It just means you’re as important.
‘I feel upset when you talk to me that way.’ That’s your feeling. A Boundary has to have teeth.
Make a Connection:
· 3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download*
· Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training*
· Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life? Book A Call With Us
· Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy *Get your copy Now!*
95 tập
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