The Real Reason Relationships Fail with Abby Medcalf

Positively Real Podcast

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Abby Medcalf, a true relationship maven. Abby is a psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker who has been helping people navigate the complexities of relationships for over 35 years. She’s worked with organizations like Google, Apple, AT&T, and Kaiser, and has been featured in The New York Times, Women’s Health, and Psychology Today. She's the author of the #1 Amazon best-seller Be Happily Married, Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing and host of the top-rated Relationships Made Easy podcast, which has reached listeners in over 170 countries. Needless to say, she’s a powerhouse of relationship wisdom!

During our conversation, Abby shared profound insights into why so many of us struggle in relationships—whether with our partners or ourselves—and how we can shift from fear-based actions to love-based intentions. One of the most eye-opening moments was our discussion on competition in relationships. It’s such a common dynamic, but we explored the damaging thought process of, "If you’re on the other team, I don’t want you to win, because that means I lose!" This mindset often leads to disconnect, but Abby shows us it doesn’t have to be that way.

Join us to learn about:

• Reframing the competition mindset
• The importance of defining your standards
• The brain's role in filtering information
• Setting boundaries that actually work
• Building a relationship with yourself first
• Outsourcing & letting go of perfectionism

We all want to feel loved, supported, and appreciated in our relationships, but unspoken expectations often lead to disappointment. Abby’s advice? Focus on defining your standards, setting clear boundaries, and showing up for yourself first. When we operate from a place of love, not fear, everything else falls into place. Tune in to get some incredible insights into how to create the love and connection you truly desire!

Connect with Abby:
Instagram: @abbymedcalfthriving
Website: www.abbymedcalf.com
Podcast: www.abbymedcalf.com/podcast
Books:
Be Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won’t Do A Thing
Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy

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