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QUALIFIED: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work with Shari Dunn | 284 33:58

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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And it also means sweater weather!!!! Yay!!! So many of my parts love sweater weather. Throwing on a big cable-knit sweater just feels so cozy. And I just love fall colors (especially forest green--I can't tell you how many forest green sweaters I have).

But do you know another reason why some of my parts love sweater weather? Because I can hide under sweaters. Especially ponchos--you can't really tell what my body looks like under a poncho. And some of my parts are really happy about that.

In my last podcast episode, Amy Pershing shared her incredible wisdom about Binge Eating Disorder. She also touched on the topic of body shame. And since healing body shame is, in my opinion, one of the most difficult aspects of this type of work, I thought we should continue the discussion.

In this week's podcast episode, we're exploring all aspects of body shame, starting with what it is (spoiler alert--it's not just negative body image). We move into a discussion about the difference between parts of us who carry shame about our body (generally exiles) and parts who shame our body as a way of trying to help us (protector parts). Finally, we end the episode on how to start healing body shame.

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone's body shame disappear. At the very least, I wish I could promise you that this is a quick, easy process. Unfortunately though, I can't. But I absolutely do think it's possible to release a lot of this shame and feel much better about and comfortable within your body. And hopefully, this week's podcast episode will help! Take a listen!

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Let's Talk About...Food Rituals 23:26

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I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that at some point in your life, you've tried to change what you're eating. Perhaps because you started a diet. Or you were trying to "eat healthier." Or maybe you were trying to move toward a more Self-led or Intuitive Eating approach to food (where you're really tuning into your body and feeding your body in ways that work well for it). Regardless of why you were trying to change what you were eating, it probably wasn't all that easy. There may have been foods that you tried to cut out but couldn't, foods that you stopped eating but found yourself dreaming of, or even foods that you restricted and then binged on. And there are likely a few different reasons for this, the first being that our parts like certain foods--and they miss those foods! But they may also like the rituals that you have surrounding those foods. The shopping, the preparing, the anticipation, the cooking, the aroma that fills your kitchen. Or perhaps the evening at your favorite restaurant where you feel cared for and attended to. Or maybe even the gatherings with friends, where everyone brings their favorite dishes and you get to eat things you've never tried before. All of those rituals have an impact on our parts. And when we lose them, our parts can feel real grief. On this week's podcast, we're talking about these food rituals and the impact they can have. Sure, our parts can get very attached to specific foods, but they also get attached to all of the rituals surrounding food. And I think it can be really helpful to get curious about these rituals. In fact, it might be helpful to think about your favorite foods and/or the ones you have a hard time changing (even when you know they don't sit well with your body). Is it the food itself that's hard to give up? Or is it everything else? Take a listen, and try to get curious! Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com kdanielspsyd@gmail.com CE Course: Unburdened Bites: Helping Your Clients Heal Their Relationships with Food and Body Using IFS…

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Let's Talk About...Episode 98: Let's Talk About...Connecting to Your Body’s Hunger and Fullness Cues 38:11

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On the last podcast, we talked about "blocking parts." And by blocking, I meant parts that tend to come up when you’re trying to get to know another part. Like when you’re headed for the kitchen and a part of you says, "I should get to know the part that’s leading me to the kitchen right now" but another part comes up and says, "Nope! I don’t want to get to know that part. I’ll do it next time." I hope that the episode was helpful and that you noticed more of those parts over the past couple of weeks. This week, I thought it would be helpful to focus on another group or cluster of parts that many folx have that I’m calling "disconnecting parts." These are parts that disconnect you from your body for various reasons. They can show up in various ways, such as: Not feeling hunger or fullness cues Not noticing physical cues from your body Having difficulty knowing where parts are within your body Difficulty or reluctance to focus on physical self-care Inability to experience enjoyment or pleasure Those are just a few examples. You may be noticing other ways in which parts may disconnect you from your body. If that's the case, just be curious. Disconnecting parts tend to be protectors who for whatever reason feel the need to separate us from what our body is telling us. They're trying to help us. On this week's podcast, we're focusing on the parts that disconnect us from our body and make it difficult to connect with hunger and fullness cues. We're focusing on: What disconnecting parts are Why they're there How they show up and block hunger and fullness cues What to do about them AND I'm sharing some suggestions from Intuitive Eating that can help you connect to your body even more. We go through four exercises from the Intuitive Eating Workbook that help you to tune into your body as well as your hunger and fullness cues. If you're someone who feels as though you're unable to read your body's cues, you may have some disconnecting parts in your system. Take a listen to find out! Intuitive Eating Workbook Intuitive Eating Book Where to find me: Website…

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Let's Talk About...Blocking Parts 13:32

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Let me ask you this: have you ever noticed yourself heading for the kitchen to get some food, knowing you aren't hungry, and when you start to check in with the part who's leading you there, you hear something like, "Oh don't do that crazy IFS stuff--just eat the food." Or, "Ugh--who cares why we're heading to food--just eat it!" Or even, "Life is so stressful right now--just eat! We deserve it!" These are parts that I call "blocking parts." They jump in and block us from getting curious about the parts of us that lead us to food. And I think sometimes we don't recognize them as parts--they just hijack us, and before we know it, we've already finished the pint of ice cream. On this week's podcast episode, we're exploring these blocking parts and looking at some of the common themes behind them. And we're talking about what to do about them: you guessed it--get to know them! These parts are protecting you, and it's incredibly helpful to find out why. And once you get to know them, they're likely to soften back so that you can get to know the part that was leading you to food. Take a listen! Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...Emotional Eating 36:29

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Here we are, in the middle of the holiday season, and I thought it might be helpful to go back to the basics of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast and talk about, you guessed it, emotional eating. Yep, it's been 94 episodes since we've focused on this topic. Well, that's not exactly true. We've focused on specific aspects of emotional eating, but we haven't discussed it in broad terms like we did in the second episode of this podcast. And I don't know about you, but I know my emotional eating parts have been more active lately. Due to the holidays and the recent election here in the US, my parts that like to soothe with food have been more present. So I thought it might be helpful to do a review of the topic of emotional eating. In this week's podcast episode, we're focusing on: What is emotional eating? Why parts choose food as their coping mechanism The most common emotional reasons that parts turn to food What to do about emotional eating Getting to know your eating parts--and who they're protecting We also talk about examples of how all of this works, and I share some resources to help. So if you've noticed heading to food more often these days, take a listen! IFS Meditations IFS Cheat Sheets Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Unburdened Eating, with Jeanne Catanzaro 1:14:04

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This week's episode features Dr. Jeanne Catanzaro , who's a bit of an IFS rockstar. Jeanne has been one of the strongest voices in the IFS community in regard to food and body concerns, and I'm so thrilled to have her on the podcast! Just a little about her: Jeanne is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in the treatment of disordered eating and trauma for over twenty-five years. She trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing®, and eye movement-desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) before discovering the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Jeanne is known for her compassionate and intuitive appreciation of the relational dynamics, internal and external, that keep people stuck in painful relationships with food and their bodies. In addition to serving as a leader of the IFS Institute, Jeanne facilitates IFS consultation groups, workshops, and retreats on Unburdened Eating. Jeanne is also the author of Unburdened Eating , a wonderful book that just came out earlier this year. And she also wrote a really fantastic article for the IFS Institute (that we discuss in this episode) called IFS's Viewpoint on Dieting and Cultural Harm . This article explicitly states that the IFS Institute does not support intentional weight loss due to the harm it can cause. Throughout this week's episode, Jeanne and I touch upon: The differences between IFS and other therapy models in how they approach food and body concerns How diet culture perpetuates the belief that there’s something wrong with your body The fact that all negative feelings about the body come from outside of us The importance of being curious toward our parts Having compassion toward all of our parts, including those who are trying to manage our bodies by focusing on food and weight What is “unburdened eating” The need for community when working on food and body concerns Jeanne also gives us some great advice in terms of how to start working on food and body concerns. She suggests that we ask ourselves the following questions: What would it be like if I wasn’t always trying to fix my body? What would it be like if I wasn’t always criticizing my body? What if my body wasn’t a problem to be solved? Can I get curious about the parts of me that feel like my body needs to change? You might have already noticed parts surfacing just by reading those questions. When you can, take some time to really sit with and answer them. We cover a lot of important ground in this episode, and I'm just thrilled and honored to have one of the best on my show. A huge thanks to Jeanne for taking the time and for all of the wisdom she imparts. Check it out! Where to find Jeanne: Website Unburdened Eating IFS's Viewpoint on Dieting and Cultural Harm Other resources that were mentioned: Center for Body Trust The Body is Not an Apology Journeys of Embodiment Where to find me: Website…

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Let's Talk About...Healing Body Shame 24:38

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Well, it's fall here in New England, which means cooler weather, absolutely beautiful trees, and apple cider! (And for those of you who love it, pumpkin spice!) It also means lots and lots of raking is in my future! And it also means sweater weather!!!! Yay!!! So many of my parts love sweater weather. Throwing on a big cable-knit sweater just feels so cozy. And I just love fall colors (especially forest green--I can't tell you how many forest green sweaters I have). But do you know another reason why some of my parts love sweater weather? Because I can hide under sweaters. Especially ponchos--you can't really tell what my body looks like under a poncho. And some of my parts are really happy about that. In my last podcast episode, Amy Pershing shared her incredible wisdom about Binge Eating Disorder. She also touched on the topic of body shame. And since healing body shame is, in my opinion, one of the most difficult aspects of this type of work, I thought we should continue the discussion. In this week's podcast episode, we're exploring all aspects of body shame, starting with what it is (spoiler alert--it's not just negative body image). We move into a discussion about the difference between parts of us who carry shame about our body (generally exiles) and parts who shame our body as a way of trying to help us (protector parts). Finally, we end the episode on how to start healing body shame. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone's body shame disappear. At the very least, I wish I could promise you that this is a quick, easy process. Unfortunately though, I can't. But I absolutely do think it's possible to release a lot of this shame and feel much better about and comfortable within your body. And hopefully, this week's podcast episode will help! Take a listen!…

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Understanding Binge Eating Disorder, with Amy Pershing 56:02

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On today's episode, I'm so excited to be joined by Amy Pershing to talk about Binge Eating Disorder (BED). Amy is essentially THE expert on treating BED with IFS, and I'm so thankful that she's sharing her wisdom with us! We've been trying for months to record an episode, and we finally did it! Just a little about her, Amy Pershing, LMSW, ACSW, CCTP-II, is the Founding Director of Bodywise, the first BED-specific treatment program in the United States, and President of the Board of the Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She is the founder of Pershing Consulting, which offers training to clinicians treating BED and trauma worldwide. Amy is also the co-founder of "Attune", an online coaching program for attuned eating and recovery support. Amy is an internationally known leader in the development of treatment paradigms for BED, and one of the first clinicians to specialize in BED treatment. Based on 35 years of clinical experience, Amy has pioneered an approach to BED recovery that is strengths-based and trauma informed, incorporating Internal Family Systems (IFS) and body-based techniques to heal the deeper issues that drive binge behaviors. Her approach integrates a non-diet body autonomy philosophy, helping clients create lasting change with food and body image. Amy is also the author of the book Binge Eating Disorder: The Journey to Recovery and Beyond (Taylor and Francis, 2018) and Emotional Eating, Chronic Dieting, Bingeing And Body Image: A Trauma-Informed Workbook , with co-authors Judith Matz and Christy Harrison (PESI Publishing, 2024). She also offers a variety of trainings on BED treatment through PESI. Amy maintains her clinical practice in Ann Arbor, Michigan. Amy begins the podcast episode by discussing her own history with binge eating disorder and how, thanks to the relentless messages from diet culture, she believed that her body "needed to be fixed because it was fat." Throughout the episode, we touch upon: How IFS views Binge Eating Disorder The role of Binge Eating parts Shame as a coping mechanism How to build trust between Self and parts What Self-led eating looks like Developing trust in your body Amy also emphasizes the fact that Self cannot be damaged by trauma, and Self does not accept body shame narratives. She states, “There’s never a time that you’re in-Self and accepting a body shame narrative. It just doesn’t happen. Self knows that body shame doesn’t exist.” We ended the episode speaking directly to therapists, both those who work with food and body issues and those who don't. Amy noted that all therapists are working with clients who live in a body and we're therefore all working with body stigma to some degree. She further notes that all clinicians really need to think about how their parts feel about their own body, food, weight stigma, and health. And finally, she states, "If you treat BED, you’re treating trauma. We have to understand the binge eating in the context of their history." Amy gives us so many pearls of wisdom in this episode that you'll want to listen to it more than once (and take notes). Even if you aren't someone who binges, how she talks about body shame is applicable to everyone in a body. Take a listen! Where to find Amy: The Bodywise Program Binge Eating Disorder: The Journey to Recovery and Beyond Emotional Eating, Chronic Dieting, Bingeing And Body Image: A Trauma-Informed Workbook Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...Creating a Parts Check-in Practice 29:54

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If you're someone who's done your own IFS work, you were likely encouraged to check in with a part that you met during your session on your own regularly throughout the week. And you may have thought, how in the world do I do that? Hopefully, the therapist or coach you're working with helped you with that process. But if they didn't, you're in luck! It's the topic of this week's podcast! While checking in with parts that you meet during session is incredibly important, so is checking in with parts in general. And one of the things that I've been focusing on more with clients these days is developing a regular parts check-in practice. In all of the IFS training that I've done, I've never really been taught how to do this, which is kind of strange, given its importance. What do mean by a check-in process? I mean taking the time to deliberately check in with parts. This is different than noticing parts as they come up for you and/or blend with you throughout the day. While noticing parts in the moment is incredibly important, so is creating time and space to check in with your parts who may not be particularly active at that moment. Creating and maintaining a check-in process is a vital aspect of connecting with parts, developing trust, and sustaining change. Which is why we're talking about this topic on this week's podcast episode. Specifically, we're covering: How to create a regular check-in process What parts to focus on during your check-in Why a regular check-in process is so important What to do if you aren't consistent with the practice I also share some resources, i.e. workbooks and journals, below. If you've had a tough time creating a check-in process--or if you're just learning that this is important--take a listen! Resources: Journal Back to Self , Tara Hedman Daily Parts Meditation Practice , Michelle Glass The One Inside , Tammy Sollenberger Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...Anxiety (and why our parts eat when we're anxious) 32:27

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On this week's podcast episode we're talking about anxiety, one of the most common things that lead our parts to food. Very often, parts in our system use food to calm our anxious parts. I think this happens for a couple of reasons. First, food can be a great distraction when we're feeling anxious. And second, food actually calms us down. Research has shown that food (especially carbs) elevates serotonin levels, which can decrease depression and anxiety. So if you're someone who tends to eat when you're anxious, there's a reason for that. It works. And I think it's really important to understand anxiety so that it doesn't always lead us to food. So, on today's episode we talk about anxiety in a number of ways: the heritability of anxiety the concept of anxiety as a legacy burden--and how to know if this is true for you why parts experience anxiety how and why parts use food to manage anxiety We also get into what to do about all of this (spoiler alert: get to know your parts!). If you're someone who experiences anxiety (and I know I am), I hope this one's helpful for you! Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...Accepting Your Body 1:03:49

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What's the first thing that comes to your mind when I say the word acceptance? As in accepting who you are and accepting your body, right here, right now? For many if not most people, the thought of acceptance brings up parts saying, "No! I won't give up!" Or, "I can't acceptance myself the way I am--I'm not good enough." Yeah....acceptance is really hard....Which is why we're discussing it on this week's podcast. First, let me just say that I think working toward acceptance needs to happen on multiple fronts, because there are numerous factors that contribute to the negative feelings so many of us have toward our bodies. How we feel about our bodies is shaped by how we personally experience them, how others treat them, the messages we get about them, how they function, how much they differ from others--the list goes on and on. I can't cover all of that on just one podcast--it would be 57 hours long. So on this week's episode, we're just focusing on one factor that contributes to our negative body image and our difficulty accepting ourselves. And I think it's one of the main factors: the beauty industry. Thanks to the beauty industry, most of us have spent time, energy, and money focused on our appearance. And it's really impacted how we feel about ourselves and our bodies (and others' bodies) in an extremely negative way. In this episode, I'm sharing a lot of research completed by Dr. Renee Engeln, a psychologist who focuses on what she calls the "Beauty Game." She wrote a fantastic book called " Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women " that's chock full of information on this topic. She's also done a couple of TED Talks on the subject, and she contributes regular articles to Psychology Today . Just to give you a little idea of what we're up against, here are some research findings on the topic: 34% of five-year-old girls engage in deliberate dietary restraint at least sometimes (yes, you read that right--five-year-old girls) Between the ages of five and nine, 40% of girls say they wish they were thinner Almost one-third of third-grade girls report they are “always” afraid of becoming fat By age 13, girls report significantly more body shame than boys In the United States 69-84% of women experience body dissatisfaction, desiring to be a lower weight than they currently are Unfortunately, all of that isn't even the half of it. The bad news goes on and on and on and on. The beauty industry (and the diet industry) have wreaked so much havoc on women in particular that it's no wonder we have such a hard time feeling good about ourselves. Here's a quote by Dr. Engeln that speaks to some of this: "The more easily identifiable you are as a woman, the more you will be objectified. The more you are objectified, the more your body will begin to feel like a performance piece instead of the home in which you live." Our bodies should feel like our homes. We should want to care for and nourish them well. But thanks to the pressures we experience about our appearance, we often don't. My hope in focusing on this topic is that parts of you will really start realizing that any negative thoughts and feelings you have about your body and your appearance are not authentic to you. They're internalized messages from our appearance-obsessed culture. They're learned. Which means they can be unlearned. So, on this week's podcast we're looking at lots of research, and we're also talking about: What acceptance actually IS (it's NOT just giving up) What the "Beauty Game" is (defined by Dr. Engeln as a collection of cultural pressures that make women feel like all that matters is how they look) The impact of the media on our self-image The link between beauty and power I also give you ten ways to start working toward exiting the Beauty Game and working toward acceptance. I'm not gonna lie--I personally think this is an important episode, because so many of our parts think that the negativity we feel toward ourselves is justified and valid. IT'S NOT. It's been cultivated by an industry that makes tons of money off of our insecurity. I think it's incredibly important for your parts to have the correct information on this, so I hope you'll take a listen! Check it out! Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Thinness Hurts Girls and Women Dr. Engeln’s Psychology Today articles The Beauty Game TED Talk An Epidemic of Beauty Sickness TED Talk Where to Find Me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...Restriction 38:31

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On this weeks' podcast episode, we're talking about restriction. This is a topic that I know I've mentioned a number of times on the show, but I've never talked about it in depth. And given how common it is, it's about time that I do. What comes to mind when you think about the word "restriction" (as it relates to food)? For me, I tend to think about the diagnosis of anorexia. I picture someone who's not eating nearly enough to sustain their body. Someone who has parts that are terrified of eating or of weight gain. Someone who's body is breaking down due to a lack of nourishment. You might picture the same. But I think that's a very narrow idea of what restriction often looks like. While certainly there are folx who are engaging in that level of restriction (research shows that up to 4% of women and up to .3% of men are diagnosed with anorexia at some point in their lifetime), many, many people restrict their food intake to a lesser degree. And I think many of those people don't really even realize that how they're eating would be considered restrictive. For example, dieting is actually restriction. So is not eating certain foods or limiting how much of those foods you're eating. Restriction is also believing that you need to earn food with exercise. Or counting out exactly 19 grapes (or whatever the "correct" serving size of grapes might be) regardless of how hungry you are. And there are probably dozens upon dozens of other examples of restriction that we don't typically think of as restriction. At this point, you may be thinking, "Hey--I do some of those things--so what? That's normal." Well, you're right--it is normal in our culture to engage in restrictive eating behaviors. But should it be? To me, restrictive eating behaviors aren't Self-led. And in my humble opinion, being Self-led with food as what we're aiming for. I truly believe that our Self wants our body to be nourished and healthy. And I don't believe that Self supports restricting. Which means that restriction comes from our parts. Let me say that again: restrictive eating comes from our parts. And on this week's episode, we talk about the four most common reasons that our parts restrict food: Restriction is seen as "normal" and desirable in our culture To lose weight, maintain weight, or prevent weight gain As a means of controlling the chaos in one's life To feel special We also talk about what restriction is (i.e. it's not just anorexia), what it can look like, and how our protectors use restriction to protect exiles. Quick example: say you have an exile who carries body shame from being told that your body is too large. This exile may be protected by a part who works really hard at trying to lose weight, thinking that if your body is just smaller that exile would no longer feel shame. If you know you have parts that restrict food (or are now curious about whether or not you do), take a listen to this week's episode. My hope is that you'll have a much better understanding of--and appreciation for--these restricting parts. Take a listen! Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Sexuality and Eating Concerns with Esther Hooley 1:02:46

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On this week's podcast, we're talking about something that I haven't talked much about at all on the show: sexuality. Thankfully, since this is not my speciality, I'm joined by Esther Hooley, a psychologist who presented a really informative workshop that I attended a few months ago on sexuality and eating concerns. Esther is a psychologist in Waco, TX and practices telehealth across the U.S. She has been a therapist for over a decade and has worked in group practices, university counseling centers, IOP/PHP for eating disorders, and private practice. Esther has spent the past three years receiving advanced training and supervision in sex therapy. This, coupled with her early training in trauma and spirituality, has led her to find her therapy "home" at the intersection of sexuality, trauma, and spirituality. Esther recently finished writing her first book, Embracing Erotic Wholeness: From Shame to Curiosity , on sexuality and purity culture. On this episode, we started our conversation on what exactly is sexuality. We then went on to discuss such topics as: What shapes one's sexuality Common myths about sexuality, including: The frequency of sex (i.e. believing "everyone is having sex all of the time, and they're having more than I'm having") The myth of spontaneous desire Feeling responsible for sexually satisfying one's partner One's sexual and gender orientations are fixed Myths about sexual satisfaction The connection between shame and restriction How to become more embodied during sexual experiences Esther also talked about the Good-Enough Sex Model, a model of sexuality created by Barry McCarthy that she uses with clients. Here's the link to a podcast episode with the creator of the model. We also talked about Purity Culture, a "painful, powerful" movement that came about in the 1990s that created a set of rules surrounding sex and sexuality. Esther noted that Purity Culture "really divided people from themselves and their wants and even their higher power." And again, she's written a new book on the topic--head here to check it out! Esther shared how she helps people get unstuck in their sexuality and look at "what are the things I'm scared of looking at, and feeling, and experiencing when it comes to sexuality." She suggested looking at the "sexual script" you were given and really noticing what actually fits for you and what doesn't. She gave the example of herself being told that women should be submissive and quiet, and that their job is to give their bodies for other peoples' pleasure and use. She reevaluated this script for herself and created a new narrative. Within this process, she asked a great question: "If I knew everything would be ok, what would I want?" And finally, we talked about what therapists can do to feel more comfortable discussing sexuality with our clients (which of course starts with our own work!). Esther suggested asking clients the questions that began this email: What's your relationship with your sexuality? What's your relationship with your body? What's your relationship with pleasure? This is such an important topic, and I'm so thankful to Esther for coming onto the show to discuss it. Take a listen! Where to find Esther: Website Her book: Embracing Erotic Wholeness: From Shame to Curiosity Books Esther mentions: Come as You Are The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Good-Enough Sex interview with Barry McCarthy Where to find me: Where to find me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Becoming Embodied: Three Exercises, with Heidi Andersen 48:13

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On my last podcast episode, Heidi Andersen and I had a fantastic discussion about embodiment and how vital it is to be in your body in order to heal your relationship with it. (If you didn't listen to it yet, check it out here !) After Heidi and I recorded that episode, I told her she had an open invitation to come back onto the show and expand on anything that we had just discussed. This invitation turned into the idea of her walking me through some embodiment exercises on the show that you could do as well. We immediately scheduled another recording and voila! This week's episode was done! Just a reminder about Heidi and why she's the perfect person to be talking about this topic. Heidi is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor, Certified Body Trust® Specialist, Certified Safe and Sound Protocol Provider, Registered Yoga Teacher and Embodiment Specialist. She currently supports clients with Reclaiming Beauty, an outpatient group practice of body-centered psychotherapists specializing in weight inclusive treatment for the intersection of trauma, attachment wounds, and eating disorders through a body liberation lens and somatic approach. Heidi believes embodiment heals and combines her studies of Somatic Internal Family Systems, Embodied Recovery for Eating Disorders, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and the Center for Body Trust® in her support of her clients. She is also the author of the Reclaiming Beauty Journal and Wisdom Deck, a resource created to support women in building a self-compassionate relationship with their body. As we discussed in last week's episode, Heidi defines embodiment as: The ability to land safely in our body in the present moment, just how we are. For many of us, this takes some practice, patience, and guidance. And this is where Heidi comes in. When we discussed this episode, Heidi told me that she had a "million" embodiment exercises. In the interest of time, she chose to do three. We start the episode with talking about why it's so important to work toward embodiment. Some of the many reasons for this are: Noticing how your body can be a resource (this might be news to your parts!) Learning how your body can help you regulate your nervous system Helping to shift the "violent" thoughts we tend to send toward our bodies Feeling comfortable with no longer avoiding your body Heidi then walks me through three different exercises, checking in with my parts as we go along. It was an insightful experience for me, and I know it will be for you too! Again, connecting with your body is a necessary part of healing your relationship with it, and I hope that these exercises help you to either begin that journey or further the work you're already doing. Take a listen!…

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Embodiment as the Antidote to Negative Body Image, with Heidi Andersen 1:04:15

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On this week's episode, I'm speaking with Certified Body Trust® Specialist Heidi Andersen about the topic of embodiment, something that she sees as vital to the healing of food and body issues. And in case you're not quite sure how to define embodiment, Heidi describes it as: The ability to land safely in our body in the present moment, just how we are. How lovely is that?? Can you image how your food and body issues would just melt away if you experienced this? Let me back up here for a minute and introduce Heidi to you. Heidi Andersen is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor, Certified Body Trust® Specialist, Certified Safe and Sound Protocol Provider, Registered Yoga Teacher and Embodiment Specialist. During her therapist career, she has worked as a therapist in residential, PHP, IOP and outpatient levels of care with people struggling with eating disorders. Heidi currently supports clients with Reclaiming Beauty, an outpatient group practice of body-centered psychotherapists specializing in weight inclusive treatment for the intersection of trauma, attachment wounds, and eating disorders through a body liberation lens and somatic approach. Heidi also provides consultation, mentorship and consult groups for professionals, as well as trainings, workshops and retreats. Heidi believes embodiment heals and combines her studies of Somatic Internal Family Systems, Embodied Recovery for Eating Disorders, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and the Center for Body Trust® in her support of her clients. She is also the author of the Reclaiming Beauty Journal and Wisdom Deck, a resource created to support women in building a self-compassionate relationship with their body. As you can see, she really knows what she's talking about! Heidi and I cover a lot of ground in this episode, but the key takeaway is this: you must heal your relationship with your body in order to heal your relationship with food. I'll let Heidi say it herself: “You can’t really heal what’s happening in the body unless you really bring the body to the forefront.” Heidi discusses how previous (and unfortunately current) eating disorder treatment models don't involve the body at all--they're merely focused on the mind. This makes absolutely no sense, since eating disorders are very often a result of body shame and/or a disconnection from the body. Therefore, working on being in your body is a giant piece of the work. On this episode, Heidi and I also talk about: How to talk about size and weight with clients Why anger can help us heal the shame that we’ve internalized The fact that diet culture is a reflection white supremacy culture, colonization, and racism How embodiment is the antidote to body image issues Why it’s wrong to say that body image is the last part of the process of healing from an eating disorder How to start becoming more embodied We also talk about the three categories of protectors that Heidi tends to see disconnecting us from our bodies. Those are: Self-Objectifying parts (those who have learned that you're an object, not a subject) Parts who are invested in diet culture as an attachment figure Parts who use disembodiment to avoid pain that the body is carrying related to past trauma As you can see, we covered a lot! Take a listen! Where to find Heidi: https://www.reclaimingbeauty.com/ Other links we mentioned: Center for Body Trust https://centerforbodytrust.com/ Embodied Recovery for Eating Disorders https://embodiedrecovery.org/ Somatic IFS https://www.embodiedself.net/ IFS Viewpoint on Dieting and Cultural Harm https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/ifss-viewpoint-dieting-and-cultural-harm Diet Culture as an Attachment Figure https://www.reclaimingbeauty.com/blog/satisfaction-may-not-be-your-until-you-break-it-off-with-diet-culture Killing Us Softly, Then and Now https://youtu.be/MQ3ESVKighs?si=DQP25QWm5Etca2Es Where to Find Me: drkimdaniels.com Instagram TikTok…

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Let's Talk About...GLP-1s and Food Noise 22:00

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I'll get right to it and be honest. Part of this week's podcast topic--GLP-1 medication--is not something I've really wanted to talk about. These are the medications that we're all hearing about nonstop--the ones that Oprah talked about in her recent special. I haven't wanted to give them much air time, because we hear about them so much everywhere else, and also because I don't really think my opinion on them matters. Although it's true that I have significant concerns about these medications and wish that we could move past weight loss as a goal, I also truly believe in bodily autonomy. If these medications seem right to you, what does it matter what I think of them? So, I do mention them on this week's podcast, but it's only briefly and it's only to say two things: If you're looking into taking them, please do your own independent research. Hopefully, you have a trustworthy physician who's looking out for your best interests. But if you don't, you might have someone who's not giving you all of the information. So please please please research the heck of them. If you do take them/are taking them, please listen to what your body is telling you. If you're having any type of negative side effects, please take that seriously. All medications can have serious consequences, so you definitely want to listen to your body. Moving on... What I really wanted to focus on this week is food noise. This is a term you've probably heard about because they tend to talk a lot about it when they talk about GLP-1s. And since it seems like people are always talking about GLP-1s, they're also talking a lot about food noise. Food noise isn't an official term or diagnosis--I don't know who coined it, but someone did and now that's how we refer to the constant internal chatter about food. This might be your experience: constantly thinking about food. That's food noise. It seems as though medication and even bariatric surgery have been found to quiet or at least decrease food noise in some people. But why is that? No one really knows (one of my many sarcastic parts just rolled her eyes and said "Of course not..."). Sure, it may be due to some physiological change that the medication or surgery causes, such as a change in hormones related to hunger. But I don't think for one second that it's entirely physical. I think it makes total sense that it's at least a little bit psychological. And of course, that relates to parts. In this episode, we're talking about the psychological factors that might be at play here in the quieting of food noise. I give you four reasons why I think food noise quiets with medications/surgery (spoiler alert: it's not because of the medication or surgery itself), which leads into a discussion on why you don't need medication or surgery to get food noise to soften. If you're someone who experiences loud levels of food noise, my heart goes out to you. I know that can be at the very least irritating and at times even debilitating. I can absolutely understand wanting to do whatever it takes to make it stop. Hopefully, this week's podcast can shed some light on how to do that without medication/surgery, or in tandem with them.…

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