Why Do I Always Need to Have Control?

The Lauren Jean Show

I'm not talking about the need to control others as much as the need for the SENSE of control. It is a deep rooted need in a human. Its all about the feeling and it cannot be ignored, because it is in fact a NEED. Like any feeling it is there for a reason and needs attention and love and understanding. and like any need if it goes unmet, shit hits the fan and life spirals out of control, literally….

When we experience the sense of being out of control we feel stressed and that need increases with intensity.

If we look back in evolution, we needed to be in control of what was happening around us to stay alive. in our subconscious mind we are highly sensitive to fight or flight (fight to the death or flight from defeat)

Some other needs for control:

Control issues may be related to:

1. Traumatic or abusive life experiences.
2. A lack of trust.
3. Anxiety.
4. Fears of abandonment.