Ep# 181: Why Bother?

Coffee With Dr. Kashey

In this episode, Dr. Kashey dives deeper into the psychology of frustration, analyzing the dysfunctional ways we often respond to frustrating situations. He highlights two common but distorted coping mechanisms "out of sight, out of mind" and "out of mind, out of sight." Though temporarily effective at avoiding frustration, Dr. Kashey explains how these tactics inevitably backfire, fueling the "frustration version paradox." Dr. Kashey reveals the absurdity in believing frustrations simply disappear if ignored or only exist when acknowledged. He keenly highlights our tendency to respond reflexively to frustrations with rhetorical "why bother" questions and meaningless "face noises" rather than thoughtful analysis. Dr. Kashey prescribes his signature "S-T-F-U" framework to transform knee-jerk reactions into purposeful responses. By encouraging more conscious processing of frustrations, Dr. Kashey seeks to help listeners break free of avoidance patterns that perpetuate rather than resolve issues. Tune in now and get the courage to engage productively with life's unavoidable irritations, progressing towards patience and peace.