Hannah Brencher- Making Big Life Decisions

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Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Hannah Brencher about writing letters to strangers building things out of love instead of fear and how to make friends in a new city.

Selected Links:

Hanna’s Website

Hannah’s Instagram

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Hannah’s latest book “Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There World”

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Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction- Making big decisions by coin flips

2:15 The “happiness” result of 20,000 coin flips

3:02 The coin toss gives us clarity

3:40 How to make a decision based on a coin flip

3:55 Just say “Yes!”

4:05 Introduction of Hannah Brencher

5:00 Moving to New York City and overcoming depression

5:25 Writing letters to strangers

6:19 If you need a love letter, just ask. How it all got started

7:22 You are not the only one facing this

7:55 Did you write all the letters?

8:04 How long did it take you to write all the letters

8:45 What story stands out to you of all the letters you’ve written

10:02 The Big move

10:28 How to make friends in a new city

12:05 Happy hour instead of a speaker fee

12:45 Ikea bringing people together

13:10 The chase for the next best thing

14:01 Don’t miss what’s happening in this moment

14:41 How to be present during a busy day

15:02 Building things out of fear instead of love

16:21 I didn’t have to let fear drive the car to Atlanta

16:56 Dismantling flakiness

17:50 Showing up when you’d rather not

19:05 The Fight Song Journal

20:47 Being Where Your Feet Are and Experiencing Belonging

21:50 Belonging comes with honesty

22:48 Initiating versus waiting for others to initiate

23:40 Sometimes we have to be the invitation

24:00 Come Matter Here

25:10 Waiting on a text saying, “Come matter here”

26:03 Letting people know that they matter

26:15 A simple prayer… “God show up”

27:08 God doesn’t leave me

27:20 What does “show up” mean

27:57 What are you doing to have more fun in your life right now

29:49 What is the best advice you never got

30:49 Just because you can multi-task, doesn’t mean you should

31:15 Get the 1st Chapter of Mandy’s new book for FREE

Quotes:

“The moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you’re hoping” Piet Hein

If you need a love letter… just ask

Be where your feet are

It doesn’t matter what you fill it with… it usually doesn’t fill

When we spread ourselves too thin we are doing a disservice to people

Belonging is like the manual at IKEA

You have to be willing to put yourself out there

The things that are hard transform us the most

Sometimes you have to BE the invitation

Most of the prayers that we need to say are simple and they don’t need to be muddied up with a ton of beautiful, eloquent words.

I’m slowly learning as I get older that multi tasking, while it’s possible, isn’t actually something that’s most effective.