29. Judging Our Life Choices: Cultural Identities and Love vs. Sex ft. Stephen Yuan

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Is there a gender difference in how we think about sex, cope with depression, and priorities in life? Stephen Yuan shares his thoughts on how he navigates a semi-open relationship, getting out of low points, and his fascination with studying porn. Stephen is a co-host on “Stories with Stephen Yuan” Podcast. This is an interesting episode because we don’t always agree with each other in this conversation.
**Content Warning: Consensual rape porn is discussed**

Highlights:

• How to deal with your Asian identity as an Asian ex-pat in China
• Stephen's weirdest sexual fetish experience with a woman
• Is there a gender difference in how we cope with depression?
• What separates love from sex?
• How internet porn has affected millennial men and women

Takeaways:

• We don't need to force our own coping mechanisms onto others
• You can be clear and upfront about what you want and not be an asshole at the same time
• We often shame and judge people based on their life choices, sexual preference, relationship style, careers etc. This hurts us all. Respect each other's choices
• Therapy helps you recognize and process emotions instead of pretending they're not there
• Recognize your every day wins
• It's okay for men to "not be in the mood" as well

Mentions & Resources:

• Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by. Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt (Book)

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