Ep. 69: How Self Control and Inhibited Expression Hurt Relationships

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Self control does have some benefits for relationships. But it also has dangers. If your self-restraint keeps you from expressing positive and intimate feelings, it may leave your partner feeling disconnected and unloved, which doesn't encourage them to express their feelings either, and then things start to go downhill quickly. But if you can be more intentional in using your self control to actually express more, the relationship is more likely to thrive.

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Ep. 69: How Self Control and Inhibited Expression Hurt Relationships

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