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143: Benjamin Heldfond: Sobriety Tools for a Happy Divorce
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Benjamin Heldfond grew up in San Francisco where he lived through a high conflict divorce. He internalized the breakup as a signal that he was bad. The experience was like Miracle Grow for his growing drinking and heroin addiction which eventually led to a flatline overdose that saw him clinically dead. But even that didn’t lead to his sobriety.
Ben eventually entered treatment, found help and 6 years into his recovery, moved to Florida with the woman he would eventually marry. The move carried a great deal of resentment towards his wife which manifested in Ben living as a dry drunk without any accountability for his actions. This led to turmoil in the relationship. The two had a son together and divorced bitterly shortly after.
Only after reflection did Ben see that left unchecked he threatened to repeat the same painful pattern he’d lived as a child. The realization moved him to call his therapist and sponsor.
Ben eventually co-authored the book, “Our Happy Divorce”, with his Ex-Wife Nikki DeBartolo, which told the story of how their journey through divorce eventually brought them closer together.
Episode Resources
- Our Happy Divorce | amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce
Connect with Benjamin Heldfond
- Instagram | @ourhappydivorce
- Facebook | @ourhappydivorce
- Twitter | @ourhappydivorce
Connect with The Courage to Change
- Podcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcast
- Podcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcast
- YouTube | The Courage to Change Podcast
- TikTok | @ashleyloebblassingame
- Podcast Email | podcast@lionrock.life
- Podcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcast
Lionrock Resources
- Lionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-app
- Support Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings
290 tập
Manage episode 330250827 series 2792717
Benjamin Heldfond grew up in San Francisco where he lived through a high conflict divorce. He internalized the breakup as a signal that he was bad. The experience was like Miracle Grow for his growing drinking and heroin addiction which eventually led to a flatline overdose that saw him clinically dead. But even that didn’t lead to his sobriety.
Ben eventually entered treatment, found help and 6 years into his recovery, moved to Florida with the woman he would eventually marry. The move carried a great deal of resentment towards his wife which manifested in Ben living as a dry drunk without any accountability for his actions. This led to turmoil in the relationship. The two had a son together and divorced bitterly shortly after.
Only after reflection did Ben see that left unchecked he threatened to repeat the same painful pattern he’d lived as a child. The realization moved him to call his therapist and sponsor.
Ben eventually co-authored the book, “Our Happy Divorce”, with his Ex-Wife Nikki DeBartolo, which told the story of how their journey through divorce eventually brought them closer together.
Episode Resources
- Our Happy Divorce | amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce
Connect with Benjamin Heldfond
- Instagram | @ourhappydivorce
- Facebook | @ourhappydivorce
- Twitter | @ourhappydivorce
Connect with The Courage to Change
- Podcast Website | lionrock.life/couragetochangepodcast
- Podcast Instagram | @couragetochange_podcast
- YouTube | The Courage to Change Podcast
- TikTok | @ashleyloebblassingame
- Podcast Email | podcast@lionrock.life
- Podcast Facebook | @thecouragetochangepodcast
Lionrock Resources
- Lionrock Life Mobile App | lionrock.life/mobile-app
- Support Group Meeting Schedule | lionrock.life/meetings
290 tập
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