Talking to People is a Skill, Here’s How to Do It

The Active Life Podcast

In this episode of The Active Life Podcast, hosts Larry Gaier and Cody Ringle explore the powerful impact of internal dialog on both personal and professional outcomes. They dive into how our beliefs and the things we say to ourselves shape our behaviors and how this ultimately affects the results we get in life. The episode covers strategies to help listeners become more aware of limiting beliefs, shift their inner dialog, and guide others to do the same.

Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Internal Dialog: What you say to yourself each day determines your actions and the outcomes you experience. Cody explains how identifying limiting beliefs is the first step toward creating lasting change.
• Humor as a Coping Mechanism: The hosts discuss how people often use humor to deflect discomfort, masking deeper issues that could be addressed for personal growth.
• Shifting from Victimhood to Ownership: A key theme in this episode is how people can move away from a victim mentality, where external factors control their outcomes, and take personal responsibility for their lives.
• The Role of Mentorship Over Coaching: Cody differentiates between mentorship and coaching, explaining that mentorship involves deeper, more meaningful guidance that empowers clients to create real change, as opposed to surface-level coaching.
• Framework for Shifting Beliefs: The episode introduces a process for helping clients uncover their inner dialog, become aware of limiting beliefs, and develop more empowering thoughts. The goal is to foster personal agency and guide clients toward better results, both personally and professionally.

Memorable Moments:

• Larry shares a light-hearted story about using humor with a client to diffuse discomfort, which leads to a deeper discussion about how humor can often be a defense mechanism.
• Cody recalls two client success stories, including one about a client who applied for and got a higher-paying job, and another who left a relationship that no longer served her personal growth.

Actionable Advice:

• Homework for Listeners: Write down the names of three people you influence weekly. For each person, think of three questions you’ve always been curious about but haven’t asked. Use these questions to explore their beliefs about what they deserve, and see how their inner dialog influences their behavior.
• Ask Better Questions: The episode emphasizes the importance of asking thought-provoking questions that encourage reflection. Avoid proposing solutions; instead, ask questions that prompt the person to think through their own path forward.

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